Quote From: wunderschoen20I was worried I would have the empty nest blues when the time came. At the time I had been married for 21 years to an alcoholic who had Hepatitis C. I couldn't stand the thought of the kids leaving because then I would have been alone with him. They were the only thing that kept me sort of sane. My husband died before they moved out. They were 19 and 20 at the time. It was I who moved away. Quite frankly, it has been a blessing having them out of the house. On the other hand I worry about them more. My daughter does just fine. Works and does the things she should. Very responsible. My son... absolutely another story entirely. He is on his own but living in his car. That's a story in an of itself. I worry about him so much. In some ways I wish he was back with me but, most of the time I know he needs to go through this himself and learn to stand on his own feet. I just don't understand how I could raise one child that is self sufficient and one who can't/won't keep a job. Any ideas? But as to the empty nest? I was ready when it happened.
I really understand your points. I have 3 sons. My oldest is very successful in his field. My sons are all different;- you could never tell that thay are related at all. My 24 yr old works full-time and has his own business after work. He does just great.--My other 2 sons are totally the opposite. I have a 19 yr old that bounces from job to job, and finally realizes that he must further his education to get anywhere in today's world-- And the 17 yr old is the youngest, and the total opposite.
In our town the first week of school just passed. He missed 2 days of school already, I had no idea until my older sons friends told us. I am really worried about the 17 yr old, he is so bright and he is throwing his whole life away. I started noticing chnages last year, when he quit basketball after playing since elementary school. He is a very gifted player. My 3 sons are extremely different all the way around. My 24 yr old, is a outstanding role model for the other 2 younger ones. I don't understand what went wrong with the other sons.
