Replies to '07/28 When Sexual Styles Don't Match'

First, sorry for mispelling your user name.

Well, I read your reply.  I do appreciate you taking time to comment.  No, I do not have evidence for everything I said - but I do have some experience.

Do you have an evidence of this?

I do know that kids who are left alone much of the afternoon and early evening every day have the potential to go out and do what they want and sneak back home before their parent(s) gets home.  I saw kids my own age doing that during my teen years.  It did increase in my own observations.  I myself, went down hill when I entered a sexual relationship at 22 and wasn't married.  I was still living at home and put things over on my mom all the time.  Fortunately I didn't become pregnant and broke it off in 4 years.  (During that time I got full-time employment, moved out and supported myself in an apartment.)  But I went downhill during it!  I stopped taking care of myself, became anorexic, and nearly got into serious trouble.  At least I had money and my own place.  Most teens of today do NOT have money or the resources to take care of themselves - let alone a baby.  And why should parents have to spend their golden years constantly providing financial support plus room & board  to adult children (or children who behave like adults sexually) who don't think before they leap?  I also agree with hitechgirl that teens are not emotionally or fiscally ready to deal with the results of their having sexual unions. 

If someone PLANS to parent a child alone that doesn't cause problems. 

OK, sometimes a person decides to raise a child alone, and that is their choice to be sure.  But in some cases, a person enters a relationship trusting and counting upon their spouse or mate to support them when a child does come along.  I don't need evidence to see the news and people talking on shows everyday - distraught that they were left alone with young children and no help (that they counted on).  What's wrong with people counting on each other to see things through?  Emotions are going to come up in that area of trusting and loving.  I just don't see how you can dismiss it.  It's not a crime to love someone enough to desire a life-long commitment from him/her.  I think people need to be VERY careful not to become vulnerable if they cannot take it when they are deserted.

Wrong, life can only be created by a male sperm and a female egg. The sex act is not required, love is not required between a man and a woman.

Hmm.  The male sperm is only in men and female eggs are only in women - do we agree  or have I got that backwards?  Can you clarify what else other than artificial insemination can produce children other than classic hetero-sex?

Our bodies were not "designed" in my opinion. And there is plenty of evidence to back that opinion up. . . .On a side note, why did god design our sex organs to be so closely related and near where we eliminate waste? Not very a intelligent design.)

Ahh, but my life is a testimony that sticking to traditional sex style and a monogomous relationship has perserved my sexual health and protected me from STDs.  I am STD-free and have been free from the worry that goes along with it.

If someone PLANS to parent a child alone that doesn't cause problems.  And once again, marriage doesn't protect people from having broken homes, abuse or neglect. Married people haven't cornered the market on happiness.

Of course, not.  Marriage is a commitment and this requires hard work and dedication.

Giving birth each time changed me physically and psychologically.  I really cannot help that - except to try and cope.  Without my husband of 22 years, I most likely would have fallen apart.  Of course, I would have coped just like every other person in such a position.  But not every person has the family or financial support necessary to get through that. 

I will be re-reading your comments in case I misquoted or missed something.  I really do appreciate having something to do like talk about this.  You make a very good point about sex-education and teaching about condoms.  But the moral issues and divine creation/design - we'll never agree on.