Quote From: porkcpMy good friend of 15 years has it. I have always been there for her, so I thought.
Well, in January she got married without inviting me. This is the last straw. I
can no longer be her friend. She is 45, acts childlike, has migraines, in and
out of hospitals. I am often the only one that visits her at the hospitals (besides family),
I kept in touch, offer support, to the point I am feeling like I am stalking her.
I love her un-conditionally, she is my friend. What can I do? I have seen her
do great when she excersizes, she gives up, it's a viscious roller-coaster.
I am praying for me to be more tolerant. I am praying for her.
You are praying. Not only for her, but also for you. Both are critical. She needs God to walk with her and to bring her closer to Him, which He is doing. And you need to pray for your continued strength and abundant love for your friend, even though you do not always agee with her behaviors(like not inviting you to the wedding).
The best thing my family does for me when I am suffering my greatest, sometimes in the hospital sometimes not, is just to LISTEN in a non-judgmental manner. Don't tell me what to do.....just talk with me......ask questions.....strive to understand rather than to be understood.....share insights and observations.....ask me if I am doing my requisite action items when I am breaking down or in crisis......and lastly ask "what can I do for you to recover?" The answer from me most likely would be to set a time to talk again....but that's just me.
Be good to yourself.
Peace.
