Replies to '08/24 The Family Cult'

Dear Idamag,
According to my daughter, Kristi's abuse came from her mother as well as her Step-Father, Philip Slown/Sloan.  I was out of the group when Kristi was born, I never abused her, or any other children in the group during my tenure (17-22 years old).  Sexual abuse is repugnant to me.  Abuse also came from her maternal grandfather, "Bud" Hathaway (Donna Marchbanks's father).  Kristi and I reunited in 1993, and by 1995 we visited her grandfather (on the approval of our therapist) where she bravely confronted him with the knowledge of the abuse he inflicted upon her and her siblings.  For years, Kristi's mother stood by and let these children be abused by him.  Donna refused to come with Kristi and I when we confronted the grandfather.  This left a very traumatic scare on my daughter, as her mother went "shopping" the morning that she was to join the two of us and confront her grandfather.  To this day, Kristi has a natural adversion to shopping! 

I am glad that you asked your question.  I don't believe that my daughter Kristi is even aware of this discussion board, or she has chosen to not post on it.  I am glad you asked this question because it brings into play another reality about The Family International.  Because they grew to indoctrinating their sexual deviances (around 1979-1986) into their membership with "flirty fishing" (using sex to lure converts), "sharing" (swapping spouses for sex), and "loving up the children" (stimulating and interrupting their children's normal sexual development), they apparently allowed strangers (and outside family members) to molest their children with their "approval."  My daughters told me that Donna's father (grandpa) was allowed to molest them because Donna was receiving money from him.  When Kristi so bravely confronted this creep, he denied everything and then pulled out a checkbook to pay her off.  My brave and strong daughter slammed the door in his face.  I have never been so proud of Kristi as that day in Texas.

As to your question about whether Kristi looked at her father as a member of the "opposite sex," she would have to answer that question.  But I can tell you that in the thirteen years since Kristi and I reunited, she never seemed to put anyone into such a prejudicial box.  She, like most of the children of the Children of God, has had a hard time establishing trust with adults.  You can imagine the predicament-  all of the so-called "adults" around her were abusing her in one way or the other.  If any prejudice is within her, I would guess it is against anyone who would abuse a child, be it a he or a she.