Quote From: afnavymomSince my marriage was such a train wreck, I spent my life dedicated to my kids. School activities, little league,bowling, class mom, team mom, etc. In many ways, it was rewarding and in others a huge mistake. What you want is for your children to become independent individuals, but when they do, you are left behind. All three of mine were out of the house within 11 months. The oldest got married and moved four states away. The other two joined the military. My world was shattered. I was left to deal with all the things I had been avoiding by baking cookies and such.
That was five years ago. Since then, I have enrolled in Tai chi, taken classes in several topics of interest, volunteered in a homeless project, written a book, got a divorce, and became a grandmother. The point is, there is life after children. You just need to take care of you for a change.
afnavymom
Thanks for sharing. Do your kids stay in contact? I have one child, 20, will be 21 in January and I have been BEGGING for her to stay in contact and make time for me. I raised her on my own with alot of "drama" on both sides - alot of hurt. But I had hoped with her being out at college in the same area, we could RESTART. Today I made up my mind to take a "break" from the BEGGING, but it is so hard as I feel I have lost the only family I have. Being dumped by my male friend of 9 months is not helping with my sadness.
