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September 3, 2006, 1:17 am PDT
 Quote From: Pleasance Guiltrin
First off get another consultation from another lawyer.
You've been married 28 years......LOOK, that in and of its self entitles you to your ASSETS FROM THIS MARRIAGE.
Some questions to give clarity to the situation:
1. Did you work for all of the 28 years?
2. For what blocks of time did you work?
3. HUSBAND QUIT HIS JOB SO THAT HE THINKS THAT IF HE IS UNEMPLOYED........HE DOESN'T HAVE TO PAY OUT.................Please, this guy is classic..........HE DOESN'T WANT YOU TO HAVE WHAT IS RIGHTFULLY YOURS.
There are guys that will even put themselves into BANKRUPTCY just so they look like they have nothing and YOU GET NOTHING............ABUSERS CONTROL........THEY PUNISH WHAT THEY CAN'T CONTROL.............AND THEN IT BECOMES CONTROL, ANYWAY.....with the bankruptcy.
Marsi.........is making really good points in her post to you.
This jerk is NOT taking a break.........he's FINANCIALLY ABUSING YOU FURTHER......he's NOT working......on purpose..........and claiming with this action that there is no job or no benefits...........manipulation..........to get you .........one way or another. Emotional blackmail....too.!!!!!
What to hell lawyer did you go to? HIS ?!!!!
Fixing the house, my @*& !!!!!!
Abusers always paint themselves like the victims..............even OJ did that in the back of the Bronco, after killing 2 people, one of which was the mother of his children. He was the victim, according to him.......even in his fake suicide note.......he claimed so.
He tried counseling to appease you.........WHAT A STUPID EXCUSE HE HAD ON QUITING !!!! You know what, if he's a pig......then he's a pig! God forbid, you actually told about the abuse.....DO YOU SEE WHY COUPLES COUNSELING DOESN'T WORK WITH ABUSE AND THESE GUYS........they punish you for what you say........when that is suppose to be a safe place to open your mouth..............and they blame YOU for why they QUIT............which was their plan anyway....cause the agreement to go was a "game tactic" anyway.........and you thought he wanted to change things.......that "hooked" you back for a bit didn't it?
YOU ARE BEING PLAYED........AND FURTHER ABUSED.........NOW WITH HIS FALSE CHANGES EVEN.......HE HASN'T CHANGED.........YOU WISH !!!!!
He dumps you off his insurance.
He quits his job.
He claims if you do this.....or you do that.......it would BE...........well, bull crap! What an old game he plays !!!!!!
Wake up!!!!!!!
He is manipulating you.......and I might say he's not so clever either........he is classic......the classic games and approaches.
Even his calls......are fake and apparent to those trained to see the antics.......look at it........."is it too late to call?"............"do you want me to go away".................he's appealing to YOUR decent side........the abusers........will do what is called........BAD GUY ---- GOOD GUY...............bad guy didn't work....before.....or now...............so GOOD GUY WILL !!!!!
So apparent......so classic..........so obvious.
Start rocking the boat.............and get the REAL and necessary information that you need to get yourself in the best position possible...............He saw you all those years as an easy mark.......are you NOW ????
Actually, I've been married 31 years, separated for 2 1/2. (he says he's not going to wait forever for me to decide if I'm coming back) I worked part time as the kids were growing up. I did cleaning/assistant managing at an apartment complex across the street for seven years. It was perfect , my kids could come over if they needed me, and the hours were very flexible. I also did some telemarketing from home. When the kids were teens I tried a home business. It didn't work out, so I only worked full time the last few years. It is his regular pattern to quit jobs. Almost every year he took off 2 months every winter. In the last 10 years it got worse. He took off 4 months one year, 6 months another, and 8 months one year. This is the first time he has a legitimate reason. His father died a couple years ago and his mother moved to Florida near another son. H is the only one close enough to finish getting her house ready to sell. He is working on our house, too. He put in new plumbing, new basement windows and shutters. He's been a truck driver for many years and the hours don't leave much time to do anything else, but, he could get a day job and still do those things. I found the lawyer in the yellow pages. I was worried I might lose the equity in the house because I left. But I found out I won't. H says he realizes he treated me like s***t from the time we were dating, and he'd never treat any woman like that again. He doesn't need any kind of "shrink" because he knows what the problem was and it is fixed. |
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