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Hi Jack...

 

You ask if you are a jerk? ...Well, Not yet, but your getting there...(lol kidding) ...First off...DO NOT apologize for wanting sex with your wife. But, four months is not a lot of time to give her to work some things out.

 

You two *DO* need to start a dialouge about this though...don't try to read each others minds unless your last name is Kreskin... Very few married couples are honest with one another about their intimacy requirements...This is a big reason that so many couples drift apart emotionally and physically after children are born. Bad pattern to fall in to.

 

You made a great point, that *both* of you need to enjoy your love making or it just wouldn't be right. I agree, and bet she does too. You two need to figure out how to make that happen...

No you are not being a jerk, justa  typical gy wanting to be with his wife but at hte same time, it has only been 4 monthsa nd beleive me, as  woman, I have given birth twice and sex was not the first thing on my mind for quite a while. Thouogh it is a rewarding and beautiful gift, parenting, especially with  new mom's, it can be exhausting and an emotional process. and when it comes to sex, our bodies just isn't always ready right away.

I think you need to communicate with your wife and tell her exactly how you are feeling and remind her that you love and appreciate her. Maybe start romancing her some, bring her a bouquet of flowers, send her an ecaard, take her out for to her favorite restaurante even if it means taking the baby with you. Offer her a break, encourage her to go out with a friend or to go take a walk at the local mall, give her some money to pamper herself, maybe offer to prepare diner one night,    doesn't have to be anything fancy, just "show" her how you feel about her and in time, she will get back to her normal  self.

be honest with her but don't make her feel guilty, ask her what can you do to help her
   with the baby, the home, whatever, be there for her and don't feel guilty cause you want to have sex with the one you love, sex is a  beautiful gift that I believe was created by God to be shared by two loving spouses, somehow, you gotta figure out how to be a support system for her and hopefully she will be for you as well, after all, marriage is about two people loving, respecting, honoring and being there for one another.

No reason to feel like a jerk, jsut try making things easier on her and remember,, she just recently had your baby and she deserves your respect.................................