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September 15, 2006, 7:52 am PDT
 Quote From: masche
I have an 8 year old boy who played basketball last year, he got tired easily but he did not quit. This year he wanted to play football so we did. Spent a lot of money on his uniform and everything but he hates it. so much so that he would get so nervous and throw up before we even left for practice. It was a hard decision but he did not want to play anymore. So we did not force him. But im afraid that that may give him the wrong message like its ok to quit. Even though i explained to him that even though hes not playing football anymore you cant go through life quitting. I feel like a bad parent because when we told the coach and my neighbor who was playing with my son they pretty much said they would not put up with that and make their kids play. And maybe their right if i make him maybe he will learn to like it, or resent the fact that he was not heard when he told his parents how he felt. I dont want people to think that he is a wimp or something. not that i should care but deep down i do. Any advice. I do believe in following through but at het same time we have to use common sense. No way would I allow my child to continue to do something that made htem so miserable and casueing them to throw up, that would be cruela nd in a way it would be abusing that child, at least that is my opinion. I really don't give a hoot what otehr parents think and say, it really isn't none of their business. Your son is not wimp, he hates the sport and doesn't like playing it. I think I would just not get him into something thatyou have topay for, he can play ball and whatever just for the fun of it. He can get togehter with friends and have a good time. one does not have to be ina n organized sport to be healthy and happy. What does he like? Does he like art? music? science? Look around and see what it is that he would enjoy. Unless my daughter starts talking about wanting to do a sport, I have no intention on putting her in one, I have already checked on Music and singing classes for her and she will be participating in these when she enters the first grade and she is a hppy and haealthy little girl. She has accomplished a whole lot already and she is not evenn 6 years old yet. Sports are fun but not all kids are going to want to play a sport and thatis just fine. They wills till grow up withthe same advantages as those who do play sports. My daughter is involved in these things as well, just not the organized stuff and the good thing, there is no stress involved, it is just plain fun. I would advise you to start looking into something other then sports for your son, it's just not his thing and he is perfectly normal and there is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. |
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September 16, 2006, 6:53 am PDT
Quote From: masche
I have an 8 year old boy who played basketball last year, he got tired easily but he did not quit. This year he wanted to play football so we did. Spent a lot of money on his uniform and everything but he hates it. so much so that he would get so nervous and throw up before we even left for practice. It was a hard decision but he did not want to play anymore. So we did not force him. But im afraid that that may give him the wrong message like its ok to quit. Even though i explained to him that even though hes not playing football anymore you cant go through life quitting. I feel like a bad parent because when we told the coach and my neighbor who was playing with my son they pretty much said they would not put up with that and make their kids play. And maybe their right if i make him maybe he will learn to like it, or resent the fact that he was not heard when he told his parents how he felt. I dont want people to think that he is a wimp or something. not that i should care but deep down i do. Any advice. I also have two boys (ages 4 and 8) who both play soccer. I speak from experience as my little one (4)just started soccer this season. It is a "clinic" team where they do not even keep score because of the ages. He was terrible at practice, screaming, crying, kicking etc. Then, I pulled him one day not too long ago and made a HUGE deal of it- you're not playing with your friends, blah blah blah. My husband and I had a fit because of it but we waited until the first game and he did great. Now, there are no problems. However, you have a different situation with your son because he did play a sport before. Have you tried to ask questions about why he's so stressed? Are you at practices? Do you agree with the coaching methods? That's important, too. My oldest had a great first year coach and I really believe that sets the stage for future involvement. Personally, at that age with previous experience, I don't think I would have let him quit. My husband and I both feel if they sign up they have to finish the season. Also, what will his team do now that they are short a player and cannot get another since season has started? To each his own but it doesn't sound like you are comfortable with your decision. What were the differences between football and basketball? He seemed to finish basketball even through getting tired. That shows he has resilience and that's a good thing. I would try to find out the reasons behind it before I made a decision. |
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