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I'm not a man but I will say that marriage is suppose to be 100% on both sides but stuff does happen and the two need to be supportive of one another. You married this man for better and for worse, in sickness and in health and chances are, with the losses he has experienced in a short period of time, it is probably affecting him emotionally so therefore his emotions are gonna get in the way of his true feelings including within his marriage.

Remmeber men and women think  differently and deal with things differently. My husband tends to go into his own little world when he is depressed/has a lot on his mind but snaps out of it pretty well, others might not be able to deal with issues as quickly in those cases, I would reccomend some good counseling, he needs to talk to some one and you need to be his support system. even if he chooses not to got o a counselor, you can still be there for him, maybe find something good to read, not sure what to reccomend, but maybe something on how to help a loved one grieve and maybe a relationship book, Dr. Phils, relationship rescue or even self matters might be a good one to read.

Whatever the case, leaving him, having an affair,a nything negative like that isn't gonna help you or him. sure, it's a temporary fix for you but in the end, you are gonna regret it and then there will be more emotional issues and whatever else to drag right along sid eof this other stuff.

I do feel that sex is imporant in a  marriage and shouldn't be with held from one another but every ones situstions are different and the two has to find a way to communicate and get help with thier issues, even if he deosn't agree to any form of counseling, you can still get some to help you through this and to help you find ways of helping your husband.If you truly love this man as much as you say you do, then you need to be his support system and find a way to encourage him and in return, if he truly loves you, he will eventually come through it, he has a lot of emotions, I am sure to deal with. Sad that he is  putting you through this as well but yet at the same time, he is probably so depressed and sad that he isn't thinking straight, don't let this come between you and your husband, I know, easier said then done but don't bail out because of his emotional state,, these tragedies just happened just over a year ago and that isn't very long ago, healing is a process, it doesn't happen over night and not only he is dealing with one loss, but three and to be perfectly honest, I am not so sure I could deal with it, I am still grieving over my best friend who died 3 years ago unexpectedly and beleive me, when I get to thinking about her, my emotions can get a little ahead of me, with out the love and support of my husband, I am not so sure I would be as far as I am with the healing process. He has only been going through this for a  year and hopefully you can stick around and find a way to help him through it instead of adding more stress and with all this being said, only you know the real deep issues and only you can make the desccisin that needs to be made, just remember, running fron the sitaution isn't gonna help either one of you, just gonna make it worse.