Replies to 'The Meaning of "Family"'

Quote From: jaimie1974

You have been clear with your son that there is no way you can rescue him financially if he is ever in the position that he might need it- that is really all that you can do. I know it must be difficult to watch your son make what could be a very bad decision, however, he is an adult and probably feels that he can handle this just fine. Of course, you want him to feel that he can handle this just fine- you are just worried about what will happen if he cant. (I would feel the same way, Im sure!)
Let your son know that you love him and he can call anytime. Encourage him to follow his dreams and not to get held back by someone elses dreams- example: this woman that he is going to live with. Does he have employment lined up out there? Does he have a plan? Even though you are worried beyond belief, you arent going to change his mind. You dont want him to leave thinking that failing would be the worst thing that could happen, because it isnt the worst thing that could happen. Even if it doesnt work out for him, it will be a life learning experience. It would really suck if he stayed in a bad situation because he didnt want to come home and hear, I told you so! or something of that nature. So before he goes, let him know that you want to support him emotionally even though you are worried for him. Let him know he is welcome back home at any time, no questions asked if that is what he wants. It is hard to let go. Good luck to you and your family.