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September 8, 2006, 10:09 am PDT
Dear boop--
Quote From: boop10HI everyone
I have been in a relationship for almost 5 yrs now. He is a really nice guy but I think he has a problem with commitment. He has never been married or lived with anyone. He is 44 and i am 43yo. We recently talked about getting a place together and he said he needed a few mos to think about it. (This was not the first discussion of this kind) We talked about it the other nite and he said he couldnt do it because of money issues and medical issues. He says I am a wonderful person and deserve someone better than him. He said he cant make me any promises for the future but does see me in his future. He said he loves me to death but realizes I want more. He said it could be another yr or 2 before he will be ready for the move. MAYBE! We have fun together but only see each other once or twice a wk because of work schedules. And sometimes its only at nite. He has no contact with my friends or family , only me. I feel like this is not a normal relationship especially for 5 yrs. Should I give him more time or should I move on?? I am really confused. I don't want to lose a good man. Five years is a LONG time!! If he isn’t going to commit to you now, or soon, then he isn’t going to. After five years of dating, he should know by now if he will marry you or not. He probably does know that he won’t marry you, but he also doesn’t want to “lose a good thing” by telling you that. Unless you are willing to settle for your relationship staying exactly the same, its time for you to go and don’t look back. You teach people how to treat you.
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