Quote From: wowie12 months ago my husband just didn't come home???!!! Our marriage had been in trouble for some time and I suggested marriage counselling but he wouldn't go. He says he just wants to be left alone. He is living with his waitress (although in a separate room) I don't believe a word of the BS he is feeding me. He flat out denies he is having an affair. The problem I have is that my 15yr old daughter is now spending the weekends with him. Although I ask how her weekend went with her dad, I don't inquire too much. I have tried to get her to talk about the separation and have offered her counselling but she refuses. I believe that she also knows there is someone else and is trying to hide it from me(she recently started putting her Dads things away at home) She is telling me that she is just cleaning up. What a terrible situation to put your child in. Do I tell her that I believe there is someone else to ease the burden or do I wait until her father tells her the truth if ever? I don't know what the truth is!!! Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
About the best you can do here is prepare the ground so to speak. Poor little girl is trying to protect both parents.
I agree with you the separate room stuff is a joke, but possibly it is to your daughters protection.
Don't inquire too much about the weekends. Keep offering counseling. Suggest that both you and Dad will probably begin dating again and ask how she feels about it. Keep communication open.
Don't depend on Dad to be forthcoming.
