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September 9, 2006, 11:28 am PDT
 Quote From: grease570 I have met the man that i thought that i was going to spend the rest of my life with. Everything that i wanted in a mate he was. Now this is where everyone is going to gasp and be like girl you are crazy what are you thinking but here it goes... We were only together for 3 months before we got into a huge fight and when i say huge i mean huge. He told me that he need sometime to think about things and to make sure that this was 100% percent what he wanted because he KNOWS (and i put that in caps because he still tells me he loves me) that he loves me just that i was the one for him. I of course read too much into what he was saying and over reacted and blew up at him calling him a few names that i would prefer not to repeat and when i did this it reopened some wounds from his childhood and now even though (and this is not something that i have come up with he has told me this himself) he loves me and wants to be with me more than ever he can't let himself be around someone that yells like that. Now in my defense after what he said to me i didn't know what else to do i was hurt and upset and all that i could see or think was that i was going to loose the love of my life i know that all this talk about forever probably a Little premature i just can't help it. I know that i have hurt him but i don't know what else i can do other than tell him that i am sorry and that i will do my best to not let it happen again. I know what that sounds like "oh baby baby please i promise i wont ____ as long as you don't leave me" but its not seeing the hurt on his face when i used those words was enough to show me that i would rather die than hurt him again. Now i own what i have done and said and all i want is to have him back but i don't know what else to do please if you have any advise please reply. Thanks Katie P.s. if you think that what i did was wrong please don't leave me messages yelling at me because i already feel bad enough. Thanks When he told you that he wanted time apart to know that your relationship was 100% what he wanted, the best way for you to react would have been to say to him, “okay.” (Of course, you probably know that now!) My advice to you is to really think about why you reacted the way that you did, be totally honest with yourself. It is important for you to learn why you reacted the way that you did so that, in the future, you don’t repeat this same mistake. It is natural for people, like your boyfriend, to feel the need for some ‘space’ before committing 100%. And then there are other people, such as yourself, who don’t need to take that time- we are all different and you need to learn how to embrace other people’s differences. When you learn how to accept that everyone is different and imperfect, you will learn how to accept your own imperfections too. You are only human, so don’t beat yourself up too much over what has happened, you need to learn and grow from this experience because that will suit you better in the long run. Remember that it is possible this relationship simply was not meant to be! |
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