Replies to 'Dating After 40'

I was SO happy to see this new board-YYYAAAYYYY!!!!!    I have  not had  good luck-And I am struggling not to settle for less- I  don't feel very good about meself when I settle- I am getting my dignity and integrety back-  100%-

Good -great-topic-Will be back!!!

i was happy to see this topic i am over 40 and have been dating a wonderful lady for a couple of years .but she wont commit to anything  i get excuses constantly. we had a chance to go on the dr.phil show and she wouldnt talk to the producer so that ended that. she has had bad luck in the past and wont move on as she is scared what do i do next?i have alot of time in this relationship and want this lady to be my wife and let me take care of her. she tells me i love her like shes never been loved before, thats where i am at my whits end any ideas?

I started dating my significant other when I was almost 44 and he was almost 50. We are still together and now I'm 46 and he's almost 52. We still have our ups and downs, we still don't live together, but at least the discussion of it in the future is not off the table. We love each other immensely, but there are still some "issues". Mainly, I have young children 5 and 10 at home and the rest of our kids are all grown up and moved out. Neither one of us talk marriage at all because I'm just not convinced that it's necessary to maintaining a life-long committed relationship. I'm not opposed to marriage, just opposed to jumping into it because it's what is expected after a period of time. I don't have a need at this point to be married, I certainly love him more than I loved any of my ex husbands, (I've had 3....but don't judge!) but marriage again? I don't know. Maybe if I was dying and needed the medical insurance. Hey! Just being realistic. Good Luck. There are some great ones out there, just don't settle.

 I have a question.  My boyfriend and I are both 55 yrs. old and have agreed to only see each other  for the past year and a half.  Last week he tells me what a woman he worked with many years ago called him and asked him to go out for drinks with her one night after work.  (She works a few blocks from his office and he says he sees her sometimes at conferences or she calls now and then) He worked with her 13 yrs. ago.  He agreed to go and it was just going to be the two of them (none of the other co-workers).  I was very upset over this and it lasted the entire week.  He knew how upset I was but he went anyway.  I was going to be a block away but he never invited me to stop in and say hello or meet with them.  I thought this was strange.  I also thought it was strange because I never Heard of this woman before. I asked what she wanted and he said "just to Catch up"  Cathching up lasted from 5pm until 8:30pm  My boyfriend said I should not have gotten upset over this and I am not to put restirctions of him.  Was I wrong to be upset?  Isn't this a date?

I am 44 and on match. com right know and having  no luck on finding mr right.

I haven't been on a date in a very long time. There is nothing wrong with me except that I don't find there are many options other than internet dating. Plus, I think at 40 most people are in bed at 8pm.