Replies to 'Dating After 40'

Yeah...I know more now than ever before. I had to go through hell to get here..tho:) I have been single for almost four yr's.. now. I had a relationship for about four monthes, with some one that I met on line. Well..I thought that I had met my soul mate? Turns out that he was living with some one the whole entire time!! It has been the only relationship that I've had.

I would really like to meet "my soulmate", it seems that they don't exist? All the men on line seem to just want to.."get laid"??? I'm so sick of it.

  Why can't I just find someone who is genuine? ..where is he?:):)

I'm 47 and have had 1 failed Marriage when i was 34. It lasted 5.9yrs.  It failed because i knew i settled.
I NEVER  dated seriously  unless there was something there, and i can tell you, i can count on 1 hand with a couple fingers less, the women i have been serious with.

Of course I started dating seriously someone 6 months ago, that i have known casually for 4 yrs.  It was my 1st life experience with who i waiteed for my whole life.   Of course she has now kicked me to the curb, and im thinking,  What good are standards? .   LOLOL

I am 47 and just left my husband of 7  years. This was my first marriage and I have dated ad nauseum up to then. I think that is really funny......knowing that you are settling vs. settling and not knowing...good one.....I can relate. :)

 

I have a few guy friends that I have dated over the years and the strange thing about it, now that I am single and they want to get highly involved, I don't want to. Even though I like them, actually even can say I love them, I know that if we didn't hook up over the years, doing so now could possibly jeapordize our great love/friend relationship.

 

I don't want to settle because the guys that we settle for are bound to get hurt....and hurt equals "pain in the ass crap". Now that I am living alone, 3 days, I am gettting numerous requests from guys that have been waiting for me to be single. When I was married, they looked good...now that I am single I don't want to see them. So, in a way, that is proof that I was using them.....Unfortunately they are really sweet guys and I am going to have to let them down gently.

 

Now that I am single again, I am not going to date for at least 6 months. By next summer I will be read to explore romance again. I don't want to settle any longer. From here on in, no more romance unless I want it and I am in control. If we give the settlee an inch, they will most likely want to take a foot. 

 

I am not looking forward to dating again. As a matter of fact, I am not going to and I know this is going to create a lot of hurt feelings.

 

 

  Because we are older, and hopefully MUCH wiser, why would we EVER settle? We are older so we have a clearer picture of what we do and do not want! We should be much more able to choose a partner in our "later" years than we ever were when we were mere children in our teens and 20's! There are plenty of good people out there. Yes, the pickins' may be slimmer but that doesn't mean that our true soulmate does not exist! It simply means that we have to date a little more to find them, but for God's sake, never settle! If you do, then what have you gained from all of your lifes lessons and experiences? Don't let them go to waste! Set your standards high, be optimistic and above all, be patient!