Quote From: starsong14Dear Dr. Phil:
It never ceases to amaze me the ridiculous lengths women will go to, the abuse they will endure and the denial they will allow themselves to wallow in simply to be married or "with" a man. Some one needs to tell this gal that if it looks like a duck, and it walks like a duck....guess what? IT'S A DUCK! Does she need a brick wall to fall on her head, before she gets it?
I can't wait to watch this show and all the rationalizing she does to stand on the right side of wrong.
I truly hope you can open this gal's eyes.
Best wishes, Mickey Drake
Dear Mickey
Dear Dr. Phil
I am touched by your response because in fact it is important to notice, become aware and take action about the red flags in any relationship right away, not long after they come or at the right time. If we say nothing, if we don't say anything, if we don't do anything, like this woman probably did, stretching her heart and compassion inside at ridiculous lengths for her man, then nothing new or better happens. That is why we need a development in the field of psychology which Doctor Phil makes us discover, demonstrates the necessity of and explains live, very, very, very well. This woman, most certainly, inevitably, did this, performed this, to endure, because of her own fears, hurt, blockages. How do we become the better in us, how do we stop something that conforted us for so long? Everybody needs a personalized plan of action. I am so with you Mickey and doctor Phillip when you mention and express shocking facts that A LOT of women do accept to endure the worst of treatments, by laziness, by fear, by stupidity or ignorance, by loneliness, etc.
Make a woman of yourself!
DOCTOR Phillip teach us more!
So Mickey, thank you. I definitely was for you and then I read your name... which made me smile and not know if you were a woman or a man. I truly believe that women do need education to know what love is, truly and healthyly and how to be strong.
If you are a man, I would say : Dear friend, yes a duck is a duck and when your father was a duck, that same duckkk, you can love also.
If you are a woman, I would say : Dear friend, do admit it to yourself that you saw it far long ago, the red flags about him, and settled in your comfort zone, familiarity, and you never took the courage to stand up (or keep on coming back and standing on) to claim or reclaim you right and become independant in your relationship, or, take action and build the self esteem to get rid of this feeling of jaleousy you ve been feeling for so long,..
... "I f he cheets he is a jack ass. If he is not likek doctor Phil teaches, guides men to be, there are not good enough! Point final. And the guys who still hurt women like the whites hurt slaves, blacks, to use these ridiculous terms to identify people, then he is a jack ass. Slaves learned to ENDURE. Women too learned to ENDURE.
Are we in kindergarden World? Grow up peacefully.
De Grace.
Doctore Phil, I have no doubt you will open this gal's eye! ... And may you tell her "it's not your fault" if need be. Like you do to children... Thank you. I thank you for these set of words you use bringing consolation understanding effects I think so many of us humans need.
Love to you and Robin and the WHOLE TEAM!
Kindly to you Mickey and all.
Synthia Borilekic