Quote From: jaimie1974When he told you that he wanted time apart to know that your relationship was 100% what he wanted, the best way for you to react would have been to say to him, okay. (Of course, you probably know that now!) My advice to you is to really think about why you reacted the way that you did, be totally honest with yourself. It is important for you to learn why you reacted the way that you did so that, in the future, you dont repeat this same mistake. It is natural for people, like your boyfriend, to feel the need for some space before committing 100%. And then there are other people, such as yourself, who dont need to take that time- we are all different and you need to learn how to embrace other peoples differences. When you learn how to accept that everyone is different and imperfect, you will learn how to accept your own imperfections too. You are only human, so dont beat yourself up too much over what has happened, you need to learn and grow from this experience because that will suit you better in the long run. Remember that it is possible this relationship simply was not meant to be!
I feel for you, I also thought I was in a relationship that would last, well we had up and downs but over all I really realise when I kept putting up with his abusiveness making excuses for him, his drinking making excuses for him, his children interferring in our relationship I still tried. I was fully committed but when it came down to committment and loyality and support he wasnt there to give it. he also said after a small fight he needed time to think, which is a nice way to say I dont have the guts to tell you but i want out. Giving time will allow him to think of ways to come up with excuses of breaking up. It hurts bad but believe me there is Mr Right out there. It will take time and like you I alway rush in so this time I will take time....My advise, give up on him, apologise and move on.
nungagirl from aussie land
