Quote From: skwirlAre you a complete person with or without a mate? I think that's where a lot of people including myself, have made huge mistakes. If you aren't satisfied living with the person that you will have to live with forever (yourself) then you aren't ready for a relationship. You should WANT a relationship more than you NEED a relationship. You can't look for someone else to make you whole, you can only do that yourself. I'm not saying that we all don't need people, everyone needs people whether or not you are right with yourself. I'm talking about being dependent on someone else to make you happy or make you feel that life is worth living. You can go into a relationship without being your "authentic self" as Dr. Phil would say, but there will be problems, big or small, because of it. Maybe you and your mate can deal with them, maybe you can't, better just to fix it all before you bring someone else in. JMHO Thanks for listening and God bless everyone on this board! :)
I LOVE this post!!!!!!! thank-you for posting it!!!! and I agree, we shouldn't feel we're only going to be complete if we have a 'mate'...sure, it's nice...but, don't be down and like it's the end of the world...if you don't have it...there are so many people out there in this world (like these boards) that are all so worth talking to...and even if we live far apart, I feel we're all friends here...and that matters to me...whether one has a mate or not, it shouldn't define us...WE define ourselves...
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