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I am here for you my sisters!!!

I know you did all you could to prove that you are or were the one for him.  I know you were the one there for him when he needed a shoulder.  You trusted him.  Gave your life to him thinking he would do the right thing by you in protecting you from all hurt and danger.  However, in spite of all you've do to prove your love and loyalty to him; still, he stepped outside of your relationship and/or marriage and gave his physical and emotional love to another woman.  He betrayed your love for him.

Yes, it hurts like H****.  However, I want you to stop crying right now and look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you done nothing wrong to deserve what you got from him.  You are not the reason he hurt you.  You are beautiful and God has blessed you with the love and knowledge to know how to treat a man.  It is just that the knowledge and love and was wasted on the wrong man. 

Men make mistakes and we all know this. Sometimes even the best of men make these mistakes.  However, it takes a real man to admit his wrongdoing and ask for forgiveness and promises to never hurt his partner again. 

In the mean time, it is imperative you stop crying and trying to fight to keep him.  Let him go to embark upon the relationship he has sought outside of you.  The best defense to this type of issue is no defense at all.  It would hurt him more if you just simply open the door and let him go.  If you must cry, do it when he is gone and not in his presence.  Hold back those tears and let them flow when he is gone.  

Do not call him and do not accept his phone calls.  In doing all of this, you are really making him stop and think about what he is doing (if he should discover that he really does love you afterall).   

If you were good to him, he will not forget it and will begin remembering everything good about you.  He will begin to imagine you being with another man and possibly falling in love and marrying another man.  If he loves you, this will begin to hurt and haunted him almost immediately. 

At this point, he will begin to treat the other woman the way he treated you before he left because he is now beginning to blame leaving you on her and this will cause him to look at the other women through different eyes.  He now feels that it was not that he loved the other woman which drew him to her, it was mere lust for her sexually.  He now knows that the true love in his heart lyes with you (the woman he hurt and left) and sex with you was just as great (if not better) than the other woman.

Now he has decided he wants his ex back.  Is it too late?  Will you take him back?  Was the hurt and pain too great to even consider giving him a second chance?  I don't know; however it is up to you to decide that.  I will say this, should you decide to take him back, it is extremely important that you let him know that he can never, ever hurt you again.  Let him know that you loved him before then and you love him now; however, during the process you discovered that God had given you strength to stand and endure the pain you suffered at his hand.  Tell him God has blessed you with the "Gift Of Goodbye" and should he ever lose his mind again and forget who really loves him and was there for him like a wife through thick and thin; you will be forced to used your God given gift and say "Goodbye" for ever.

I AM YOUR SISTER AND I LOVE ALL OF YOU!!!!