I was married to a man who lied to me alot, even over stupid little things- and deceived me many, many times... Of course I ended up feeling just like you do now, like I was the stupid one for giving him the benefit of the doubt, over and over again. I made excuses for him all the time, but I couldn't make excuses for his 'shady' friends, just like your hubby- I got lied to and items stolen from me one too many times and finally became fed up. I didn't know what to do, though, and I thought long and hard about my situation and came to the conclusion that since I was the one tolerating being mistreated like this for so long, I probably could use some therepy. It was very hard to admit it, but I got the courage to make an appt. with a therepist, and I have never regretted it. Talking to another person about my home life took a huge amount of stress off of me, and being validated that it wasn't ME... I was guilty of holding onto a dream for too long. I kept wishing and hoping that things would change, but they never did. It didn't take very long from there to get the courage to move on without him. Nobody deserves to be lied to for so long!! You deserve to be happy and respected.
