Quote From: cooperc50When is the right time to tell a prospective partner, after the 1st date, the 3rd date or when the petting gets serious. I have not dated much after finding out I had herpes, got it in a long relationship and found out afterward he cheated on me and condoms weren't used. I used condoms every time with other parteners in between me finding out and the relationship so I feel better there. But how do you date again, one person said if they really like you they won't run but it beats you down emotionally after a while when the negative reactions keep coming out. I'm not sure what to do, should I stop dating all together. I have found that the std websites aren't very good, ad's, responses, etc. I guess it will be in the back of my mind with the dates util I tell them so I can't really relax and have a good time because I know eventually i have to tell them, I don' t want to get hurt and I don' t want them to get hurt either. What do you do?
In my opinion, if you think the relationship is going somplace, you should be up front as soon as possible. Put yourself in the other person's place. When would you like to know. How important would it be for you to find out. If this person really cares for you and want a relationship with you, then he/she should be ok using condoms. This disease is no joke, it takes an emotionally toll on you. I don't know where your relatiionship is with God, but you have to constantly be in prayer. You feel so down a lot of time. Everytime you get a outbreak especially, you just want to kick yourself.
