Quote From: piscesgrll44I am 45 and alone. I have been married twice and divorced twice, had a 2 year relationship and just recently broke up with the two year relationship. With the experiences that I have had from those relationships, I find my self questioning anyone that I meet, about their feelings, intentions, whether they are being sincere about what they say etc. It has been hard for me to start a relationship because of the way I feel about men. I realize that not all men are alike but my heart tells me other wise. I need some advice about what I should do so I can move on and have a decent loving realtionship.
At least, that's how it seems to me. In the 8 years I've been divorced (I just turned 40), I've had ONE relationship that lasted longer than a couple of months. That one went for 7 months, and then he decided that I just wasn't the one. Even then, although I had decided to bloom where I was planted and just be happy with what I had, I knew I was settling for something less than what I really wanted. He's a nice person, took care of me, common interests/friends, we had good conversation even after 7 months, so despite a couple of largish issues, I decided I really could have a good life with this man. Then he dumped me.
Honestly, most guys that will make a real commitment to a woman who are in their 30s and 40s have already found her, if not raising kids by this time. The ones who are left - well, if you meet them, you'll see why they're alone. Lots of perverts, Peter Pans, momma's boys, just any number of strange-o's. I know at least a dozen women that I've had conversations with who are in their 30s, attractive (most are more attractive than I am, and I usually get good feedback from men), very smart, educated, with full and active lives, and they're still single -- not by choice but because they don't want to settle, and they can't find decent men in the right age range. No, a 23 year old just doesn't do anything for me. I'm not interested in raising my guy.
