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September 12, 2006, 5:52 pm PDT
Having a Baby Has Changed My Life
Quote From: fidgiesmomHi there, I have a 9 month old baby boy who is the apple of my eye. I love him very much but I sometimes feel I have to take some time for me. I'm a 40 yr old and I like to get out and about with baby, but I need time for me. His father is working anywhere between 40-60 hrs a week and I know he is doing his end financially, but at the end of the day when I want some time to take that bubble bath or nap.. I don't nap all the time when he naps.. Laundry, cleaning and making meals and taking care of the baby is draining for me epescially if I don't sleep well at night.His father does help for the most part but it seems I have to guilt him into taking the baby so I can do what I need to do in order to recharge . Is this wrong? I had a another baby when I was really young and gave him up for adoption and I never got to enjoy being a mom then, I guess I'm making up for it now. I love being a MOM.... thanks for any input... fidgiesmom You deserve some alone time and you need to take it as all mothers need as well as fathers. I think there has to be a plan and you and your husband need to work together on that plan. Sit down together and communicate and figure out a good time, once a week, whatever, that coiuld be your you time and he needs his time as well, so, discuss that. our planned night/day, might not always work out as schedules change, plans change but for the msot part with a plan, it can get easy and it does work if both spouses are working together.
You shouldn't have to guilt your husband into anything. One thing that I have learned is that when I need some me time, I take it. I make sure my husband has had some time to relax and I usually know what plans are, I will make sure the girls are taken care of and I just tell him,what I am gonna do, if I need to go to the store or go get in the shower, I tell him and I go. I know this might seem easier said then done and for some I realize that some spouses are not very supportive and for those people I say, do what you have to get your down time, leave the dishes set and go for a walk or go get int eh shower, whatever. Don;t stress over household chores and stuff that can wait, it just isn't worth it. Right now, dinner dishes are still setting in my sink cause I am wounding down at this time, been a long day and the dishes will still be there in the morning when I get up and in teh meantime, I am relaxed.
Don't feel guilty for wanting some ME time, you need it and deserve it. :)
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