Replies to 'Having a Baby Has Changed My Life'

Quote From: jettav

You deserve some alone time and you need to take it as all  mothers need as well as fathers. I think there has to be a plan and you and your husband need to work together on that plan. Sit  down together and communicate and figure out a good time, once a week, whatever, that coiuld be your you time and he needs his time as well, so, discuss that. our planned night/day, might not always work out as schedules change, plans change but for the msot part with a plan, it can get easy and it does work if both spouses are working together.

You shouldn't have to guilt your husband into anything. One thing that I have learned is that when I need some me time, I take it. I make sure my husband has had some time to relax and I usually know what plans are, I will make sure the girls are taken care of and I just tell him,what I am gonna do, if I need to go to the store or go get in the shower, I tell  him and I go. I know this might seem easier said then done and for some I realize that some spouses are not very supportive and for those people I say, do what you have to get your down time, leave the dishes set and go for a walk or go get int eh shower, whatever. Don;t stress over household chores and stuff that can wait, it just isn't worth it. Right now, dinner dishes are still setting in my sink cause I am wounding down at this time, been a long day and the dishes will still be there in the morning when I get up and in teh meantime, I am relaxed.

Don't feel guilty for wanting some ME time, you need it and deserve it.  :)