Quote From: sparkywitaHi there
About eight years ago I met a man and had a brief affair with him - I was married to my ex husband at the time (something I'm not proud of) but the marraige was over anyway. I became pregnant by the man I had an affair with and had my son. I told my ex husband when my son was 2 that he was not his father - he accepted it and considers my son his own son. I am in a terrible dilemma as I do not know whether to tell my son about his biological parentage and it has caused me to put up barriers between myself and him. I love him so much and could not bear to hurt him but at the same time I feel tremendous pressure in holding the lie. Can somebody please throw some light on this and advise me what to do....
Thank you so much and God Bless you.
I had a child at 17 years old and at 18 married another guy when my daughter was 5 months old. He adopted her and never wanted her told. I felt to not tell her was a lie. We argued about that for all of our 8 years of marriage. Eventually we each told her in our own way-but our timing was terrible and selfish. It was during the early years of the divorce. She is now 36 years old and has always told me she needed to hear the truth. She says she always knew anyway. She didn't look like either of her siblings. The sad part was our timing in telling her. I so wish that part could have been different. Keep that in mind-the truth needs to be told but the timing is so very important. Hope you and your ex-husband can come to an agreement on that, for your son's sake ,especially.
