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I have never been much of a dater in my life-I was usually the last one to get picked for anything-that included.  Now that time is no longer on my side, it is even more impossible to hope for a date or anything long term either.  I lost my friend of 2 1/2 years-he's a widower and the whole time he was thinking of her.  IN january it stopped because I went to his new apartment and there were pics of her everywhere but none of us.  I don't think it was intentional, but it still cut me to the core-and I am finding I have not recovered and probably never will.  My trust is skewed now and I look at men differently, even though I crave a relationship and wish I had someone who gave a damn about me.  Just the hugging and that sort of thing is the void I can't fill.  I am trying not to be bitter, but men are not interested, and the few who have shown any inteest just used me to get what they want.  So, i don't know if I can ever be happy again.  People tell me men do not make you complete, but I sure do miss their companionship............