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September 13, 2006, 8:58 pm PDT

The Meaning of "Family"

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 I'm 20 years old and the middle child of three girls. My older sister is going on with her independent college life in a different state. my younger sister is severely handicapped and has been placed in a place that can take care of her better than we can, but is also in a different state. my parents have divorced at the beginning of last year. I live with my mother, but it feels like I'm living on my own. for the last 10 years, my mother had worked constantly, and I never saw her when my sisters and I needed her the most. It still hasn't changed. she's never home. and if she is, she's sleeping and doesn't want to be disturbed. if she isn't sleeping, she's either working, out with different dates, or working out with her friends. my mother and I moved from one state to another, and I don't have any friends in this state yet. the only person I have is my mother and she's never here anyways. she knows absolutely nothing about me anymore. I don't have enough money to move out of our cheap trailer house. even now, she's never there when I need to talk to her. she never had time for me and still never has time. and it doesn't help that half the time I'm actually afraid of her because she's inherited my grandfather's angry words, temper, and verbal harrassment towards me, my sisters, and our beloved animals. I don't want to end up like her. what should I do with barely no money, and no place to turn to?

I think that you need to move out on your own and get away from your mother. I know you say that you don't have the money, do you have a job. I moved out of state with three children to get out of a bad situation. I t may be tight for awhile but if you are determined you can do anything, work to jobs if you have to. If I can do it wiyh yhree children you can do it for yourself. It isn't healthly to live with your mother, you can do it! 
 
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September 20, 2006, 11:06 pm PDT

The Meaning of "Family"

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 I'm 20 years old and the middle child of three girls. My older sister is going on with her independent college life in a different state. my younger sister is severely handicapped and has been placed in a place that can take care of her better than we can, but is also in a different state. my parents have divorced at the beginning of last year. I live with my mother, but it feels like I'm living on my own. for the last 10 years, my mother had worked constantly, and I never saw her when my sisters and I needed her the most. It still hasn't changed. she's never home. and if she is, she's sleeping and doesn't want to be disturbed. if she isn't sleeping, she's either working, out with different dates, or working out with her friends. my mother and I moved from one state to another, and I don't have any friends in this state yet. the only person I have is my mother and she's never here anyways. she knows absolutely nothing about me anymore. I don't have enough money to move out of our cheap trailer house. even now, she's never there when I need to talk to her. she never had time for me and still never has time. and it doesn't help that half the time I'm actually afraid of her because she's inherited my grandfather's angry words, temper, and verbal harrassment towards me, my sisters, and our beloved animals. I don't want to end up like her. what should I do with barely no money, and no place to turn to?

I agree about leaving home if possible but make sure you aren't going to be taking yourself from a bad situation to a worse one. You will need money to support yourself whether you can get that from a benefit or from a job but there are always bills to pay when you have moved out. You could also try living with a friend or another family member for a while, your friends are in a different state but maybe somehow you can travel there to stay with them?
The only other thing I can think of that might work is get a relative or someone to go with you and talk to your mother, then if she gets angry about it she can't hurt you. No mother, or anybody, has the right to hurt someone, whether it be verbal or otherwise. You and your sisters need a good role model in your life and if she can't be that then she is losing one of the best things in the world, having a close bond with her children.
Be careful and good luck. I hope you can work things out. BTW if you do decide to go, take the pets with you :P
 


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