Quote From: hotnychickI am sure you are trying to set a good healthy example for your daughter- I think you are trying to help and teach her to respect herself- (?) - You have a right to feel what you want- And I agree than porno doesn't really help to rekindle a relationship if it is in trouble- And I learned something the hard way- It doesn't do any good to 'argue' another poster- It gets no one no where and it is a waste of YOUR precious energy and besides-you are not alone-I do not think porn helps-That stuff is not real and it is all crap any way- the words my mother uses- and I have heard others say-
Please do not be upset and angry any more- I hope I can be of help to you-
Do you and your husband have strong communication? Have you tried to talk to him? If he does not care about how you feel or respects your feelings-then if I were you-I would not put up with it-
This lack of respect on his part is not good for your daughter to see-
I hope this helps-
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hotnychick, Jettav and topeka, for your comments.
I thought I posted a thank you yesterday, but I don't see it. You're right I shouldn't argue with another poster, but I really didn't want him to think he could slam me and insult my parenting skill without me defending myself. I didn't need a devil's advocate, I have one at home. I am not a prude by any means, I enjoy ALL aspects of my relationship with my husband, I'm just not a fan of porn websites. We have always been able to communicate, and we've even seen a professional on occasion when we needed to, either separately, or together. We've always worked through our differences and we BOTH have compromised.
Any way last night I found the perfect opportunity to speak to my husband about my feelings, and how what he's viewing effects me. I was able to ask him why and what he gets out of those sites. We were able to exam our relationship and what has happened in the past to get us to this point. We were both able to get our points across and respect each other's opinion. We have worked through this problem and we're looking forward now. Thanks again for letting me voice my concerns and giving me feedback.
