Quote From: hotnychickOK OK I just read this post- Has anything changed since you first posted?
Both y'all need to get real- You need to set a good example for you kids- OMG-You can't be serious about having another baby! I know what you said-but it is not fair to bring a baby into this unahppy mix-
I really hope that one of you will get real and get therap or this relationship needs to end- You are all suffering and it is not good for the child-
Then if you tried everything and nothing is helping-why are you still together? And sex therapy will NOT help when there are already so many issues in your marriage- As the saying goes- no matter how great the sex is-it will NOT help save a failing marriage-
You child deserves better than this- No more kids for you two!
Besides- I think you know in your heart that this marraige needs to end-I mean you did say you two tried EVERYTHING?
However, I don't think in my heart I know that this marriage needs to end. We have been married for going on 10 years. Married for going on 8. A year ago I had let things deteriorate (documented on these boards) but started a turn around last fall. We have come so very far in a year. Our marriage is in a better place than it has been in a longggggggg time. Dr. Phil says that when things are okay sexually in a marriage, that sex is about 10% of that marriage. The other stuff that make up that 90% are so great for us. However, Dr. Phil also says that when things aren't good sexually, it makes up about 90% of the marriage. So is is bigger than it probably should be? Yes. But I think we can work through this with time, effort and patience.
I am not ready to break up our family over this. And do to religious and moral beliefs I doubt I ever will. We will continue to work on this together. The counseling she had was with a counselor that wasn't very good. We are going to try at least a few more before we give up.
I agree with you about another baby. However, if we don't now we may never have another child. :( That would make both of us regretful.
