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September 15, 2006, 5:45 pm PDT
 Quote From: hotnychick Dee I can relate- My family abuses me and treat me badly- I am the only caring one as well- I have had to learn just because family is blood- that really doesn't mean anything when you are being treated horribly-There is a whole new definition of 'family' these days that they have done and are doing alot of studies on-
Your sister who treats you so badly-Stop trying because she has alot of problems and taking it out on you because you care so much- Don't let her get to you-It has nothing to do with you- I am putting my words into action myself with my 'family' -
Just take care of yourself and do not let them get to you-OK?
I do not know about 'lying' but lying is not a good thing-Like some one suggested-But...You don't need this drama- and usually people who are so unhappy and miserable-they want to bring others way down to their level to feel good about themselves- It is not easy-but you must not let them take away your power- Take care- I know exactly what you are going thru- Hope this helps a bit- Thank-You for your post...I guess, my problem is, I've always wanted to have my family in my life...and I didn't mind putting up with alittle crap, because I thought I could...I even had other family members say for me to be the 'bigger person'...but, problem is I've always had to be...and now I realize it has affected my self-esteem...I didn't know till now, that one's self-esteem has EVERYTHING to do with people that has treated you like crap...I always thought self-esteem was straightened other ways...it's very difficult to have lived up to now, and just now realizing it....but, I have and I feel so confident...I don't know where it's coming from...I just had to know when enough was enough...and know I did my best, then I could let go...but, I've been through this 2 times before...and I don't think I can do it again...I want to say something to anyone out there with ANY similiar situation, whether it's family, g/f's, b/f's, husband's, wife's, co-workers, on and on...don't be around people that lower your self-esteem...because, it is so damaging...I was with my first b/f 6 yrs. and he slapped & pulled my hair, and broke things in front of my face...and then there's my family...point is, for some reason I felt when you love someone, you love...and you don't leave...never thinking about what damage it's doing to me...if we all can key into that sooner, then we will not be bitter, hateful, and all those other destructive ways....caught on to people right away, get away from them, and learn to be happy with 'yourself'....hope this helps everyone that reads...dee |
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