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 I am not sure if I like the format in the new board. It seems like a lot of wasted memory repeating the message. Anyway, tis not important. The time away from the board, albeit at first, was a little unsettling :) but we survived, right? I have actually used the time away to delve into my prep work for the board exam in 5 weeks. I have been working the spa and at the university and basically trying to get my head on straight.  I feel better these days and as you mentioned the time span????? Things have been getting a little better ( I am still struggling with being intimate with him) It's very hard to explain but I am really having a hard time warming up to him sexually. I don't miss having sex with him. We had sex once on the vacation (which is pretty amazing really) so this is why I say it is seemingly getting better although I am not so sure if we are both settling.  I have to realize that sex to him is basically sex. He likes his fantasy world better and seems ok with having me once in a while. I figure if he really wanted it bad enough he would make overtures towards doing things to make it happen. Most men will woo a woman (as long as he believes she is a willing participant) if a guy thinks he might not get anything, then he doesn't do much to even try. So, the woman is left wondering what's up and the man is left feeling rejected. No one wins.

The time limit was if things don't change by the summer I would leave. Things have changed, even if it only within myself, so I remain. I don't see myself leaving him right now because there really is no reason other then we are not sexual. Maybe this is how it's going to be.

So, you got to tell me.....how is your son doing now that his success in PR went so well? I think that is so awsome that you support him like you do. He is one lucky litttle boy :) TAke care. Kimi

I am starting to understand him a little better and not judge him too harshly. The one thing I have had to really learn is that when it comes to male/female roles in relationships we are on very different pages. He is a country boy and I am city chic. These things we can't change and in order for us to be able to really love one another, we have to learn how to respect the differences and I am trying. I think he is too. We went on vacation with his daughter last week for a week, and things were smoother. We still did not spend too much time together but it has increased from the zero time we spent together in the past. Now that I am working and making better money, he seems to be nicer to me and I know this is because now he is happy that I am showing signs of financial security for him.