Replies to '03/21 When In-Laws Cross the Line'

Quote From: redhotz

I want to extend hope to anyone out there who has trouble with their in-laws.  I had problems with my father-in-law as did my sister-in-law.  However, I came out differently than she did, and depending on how each person looks at it, I feel I came out more fortunate than she.  MY husband stood by MY side and hers (my husbands brother) did not stand by her side.  There were issues of their father "overstepping his bounds" with us and our comfort levels when it came to what my therapist called "sexual harrassment."  I didn't know or realize it was considered "sexual harrassment until my therapist told me that ANYTHING that makes ME feel uncomfortable is just that, SEXUAL HARRASSMENT.  So I hope anyone reading this who has a question be it from a father in law or anyone of the opposite sex will be helped.  Anyway....I hope you and your spouse can find a common ground and make things work, because the one thing that has been tough is that our children miss their grandma.  AND I MISS HER TOO, she and I had an awsome, one of a kind  mother in law/daughter in law relationship.  One like no other.  I shared things with her I didn't share with my own mother, we did our nails together, we talked about hair care together.  I MISS HER, however, she made a decision to stand by her man.  And for that her son, myself, and our children do not have her in our life.  Someday I hope that will change, but until then, we keep her in our prayers.  GOOD LUCK TO THOSE WHO HAVE IN LAW ISSUES.  Don't let it come between you and your spouse and ruin your marriage.  STAND UP FOR YOURSELVES.  My husband did, and we are married 15 years strong!