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September 29, 2006, 5:53 am PDT

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It was just one year on 7/16/06 @ 1:40am that I lost my son James to the monster/deman of addiction. Everyone that new him and met him loved him.

He worked 24/7 and owned nothing. He was a carpenter and was building the Panthers homes here in NC.

My heart aches all day and all night.

Only a mother like you really knows.

 I lost my 19 year old son almost 2 years ago to a drug overdose.  Having a child die is enough for a parent to take but sometimes there is a stigma to the ones that die from drugs.  Soon there will be a grass roots attempt for a nation wide organization like MADD only it will focus on drug addiction.  Take one day at a time and try to focus on something that makes you "happy".  I now belong to a Victims Impact Panel.  Once a month I tell teens the story of my son, Keith.  Take care of you.
 
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October 20, 2006, 10:21 pm PDT

Coping with the Death of a Child

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It was just one year on 7/16/06 @ 1:40am that I lost my son James to the monster/deman of addiction. Everyone that new him and met him loved him.

He worked 24/7 and owned nothing. He was a carpenter and was building the Panthers homes here in NC.

My heart aches all day and all night.

Only a mother like you really knows.

I am so sorry for your loss.  This has been a very depressing week for me.  Wednesday was Alicia's birthday.  Although these birthdays come and go with much less heart ache, it still is a depressing time.  I am so glad that she didn't have a drug addition, even though drugs ( PhenFen and Pondiman) is what cut her life short.  She had a disease called Lupus Anticougulant Syndrome, age 16.  Her Hemotologist prescribed the infamous drug PhenFen and added the Pondimen to speed the effects of Phenfen.  She was on a blood thinner Coumaden and steriods for the anti-cougulant problem, 9 weeks later she was diagnosed with Myocarditis.  So, in a way I can understand the pain that you are feeling about the monsters and demons.  My monsters and demons are the illegal drugs.  Doctors herd us through the chute without cross checking the drugs that they prescribe and we take them at faith.  Not this Mama anymore.  I had 9 years of heart wrenching hell, watching her die.  I speak loud against ALL DRUGS, and that has been my therapy.  Tell your story, and just maybe one child, one adult, just someone will listen to your loss and be saved.  Have faith, and you are in my prayers.
 

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January 29, 2008, 9:49 pm PST

I really understand

Quote From: mlazanis2003

It was just one year on 7/16/06 @ 1:40am that I lost my son James to the monster/deman of addiction. Everyone that new him and met him loved him.

He worked 24/7 and owned nothing. He was a carpenter and was building the Panthers homes here in NC.

My heart aches all day and all night.

Only a mother like you really knows.

I, also, lost my only child, a son, Danny, to an accidental drug overdose, Aug. 9, 2003.  He was 27 years old.  Time helps, but never does an hour go by that I don't think of him and how terribly much I miss him.  He worked too, but, like your son, didn't have anything to his name.  He had moved back in with us, after helping take care of his grandmother, after his grandfather's death.  He moved back out 13 days before his death.  I dropped him off at a friend's house (he lost his driver's license on a DWI) on Friday afternoon, and he was gone on Saturday morning.  What helped me thru the first year was a website called Compassionate Friends.com, which is a monitored site for parents that have lost a child.  Also, the love of friends and family, who would let me vent, just listening.  They couldn't FIX it, but were there for us and still are.  I, also, saw a psychologist for several months.  I will pray for you and you for me that we wll find peace and know that we will see our sons again someday.
 
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May 15, 2008, 9:00 pm PDT

Coping with the death of a child

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It was just one year on 7/16/06 @ 1:40am that I lost my son James to the monster/deman of addiction. Everyone that new him and met him loved him.

He worked 24/7 and owned nothing. He was a carpenter and was building the Panthers homes here in NC.

My heart aches all day and all night.

Only a mother like you really knows.

I know your pain.  I also lost my 19 yr old to an addiction.  There is very little reprive from the constant ache of missing him.  There are no words to describe the regrets that a mother feels that she couldn't save her child from the evils of this world.  I pray for all mothers that have lost their precious one's.  It is a living hell to wake each day with the reminder that they are gone.  You are right...only a mother really knows.
 


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