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September 20, 2006, 5:35 pm PDT
 Quote From: marsplasti Many many years ago when I had to get a custody order for my son when my husband left I just went down to the family court and filed all the papers and since ex-hubby wasnt around they granted me sole custody of my child and the next set of papers were for child support. All for free at my local family court center. I know that in my State (cant say) anyone can file a petition in family court for restraining orders, custody of children and spousal and child support. It might take awhile but heck its worth it. I also know that in family court they ask you if there is a diovrce in motion (divorce is for supreme court and and not family court) You say no. They will direct you to the proper paperwork. Actually the intake clerks and social workers there are very helpful.Later on though when you file for divorce and start that you will have to get an attorney and that will cost you. I once got a restraining order from family court against one of my hubbies and it was free. I also got to talk to a counselor at the courts; also free. Well, Our taxes pay for this stuff. I also filed a petition for spousal support; all free. I represented myself in family court. Unfortunately I couldnt follow through because I had moved away.Only I did get a court date and it was going through and I didnt pay anything. I am so sorry I didnt stay around and follow through with that. Later on I filed for divorce so the family court thing was a wash out. Check it out. I cant believe no one has suggested this? I believe family court is in place for the less fortunate. Let us know what happens? I would def. file that custody order though since your hubby has problems. I doubt the courts will dispute this if you tell them the truth and what he has been doing for the last few years. You can get sole custody for now until hubby decides to straighten out or whatever. This way he cant just take your daughter. If you have custody and he takes her he is in violation of a court order and that is kidnapping. Yes; One parent can take the child without the other knowing and it could be legal if there is no court order. It happened to a friend of mine. Marsplasti.....nice to see you here again....you have been missed.
Regarding options for somehope4us.........I believe you will find that others, myself included have offered lots of information and mentioned resources....on multiple occasions.
There were many posts again today.
It was only today that the discussion began about her husband and his remarks regarding the daughter and "getting her one way or another. "
I think you'll find the information in several posts. Most information has been resisted and or debated while barely touching the surface of the matter. So the nitty gritty was never arrived at.
Just today I suggested the paper work thru the legal channels available as resources in the community. You might like to read the response to that, if you will.
Your explanation of the details and the "nitty gritty" is fabulous step by step information.....and I'm glad you shared it and made it available here.
Mars........"where have you been?" I know some of the answer......anyway, I'm happy you are posting again..........WE MISSED YOU.
Take care.
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September 20, 2006, 6:48 pm PDT
Quote From: marsplasti Many many years ago when I had to get a custody order for my son when my husband left I just went down to the family court and filed all the papers and since ex-hubby wasnt around they granted me sole custody of my child and the next set of papers were for child support. All for free at my local family court center. I know that in my State (cant say) anyone can file a petition in family court for restraining orders, custody of children and spousal and child support. It might take awhile but heck its worth it. I also know that in family court they ask you if there is a diovrce in motion (divorce is for supreme court and and not family court) You say no. They will direct you to the proper paperwork. Actually the intake clerks and social workers there are very helpful.Later on though when you file for divorce and start that you will have to get an attorney and that will cost you. I once got a restraining order from family court against one of my hubbies and it was free. I also got to talk to a counselor at the courts; also free. Well, Our taxes pay for this stuff. I also filed a petition for spousal support; all free. I represented myself in family court. Unfortunately I couldnt follow through because I had moved away.Only I did get a court date and it was going through and I didnt pay anything. I am so sorry I didnt stay around and follow through with that. Later on I filed for divorce so the family court thing was a wash out. Check it out. I cant believe no one has suggested this? I believe family court is in place for the less fortunate. Let us know what happens? I would def. file that custody order though since your hubby has problems. I doubt the courts will dispute this if you tell them the truth and what he has been doing for the last few years. You can get sole custody for now until hubby decides to straighten out or whatever. This way he cant just take your daughter. If you have custody and he takes her he is in violation of a court order and that is kidnapping. Yes; One parent can take the child without the other knowing and it could be legal if there is no court order. It happened to a friend of mine. I will definitely be going there tomorrow during my lunch break. And, no, this has not been mentioned to me at all. I had thought about going there and asking what to do or where to go anyway so I'm glad to know I was on the right track. I just didn't know they could do it all without an attorney. I knew I could get all those things by filing for divorce but that will take months. I needed something NOW to keep him from taking her just to spite me. I don't really know what to expect from him but, with my kids, I can't take any chances. Thank you again for the info. and I will let y'all know what happens. |
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September 21, 2006, 7:20 pm PDT
Quote From: marsplasti Many many years ago when I had to get a custody order for my son when my husband left I just went down to the family court and filed all the papers and since ex-hubby wasnt around they granted me sole custody of my child and the next set of papers were for child support. All for free at my local family court center. I know that in my State (cant say) anyone can file a petition in family court for restraining orders, custody of children and spousal and child support. It might take awhile but heck its worth it. I also know that in family court they ask you if there is a diovrce in motion (divorce is for supreme court and and not family court) You say no. They will direct you to the proper paperwork. Actually the intake clerks and social workers there are very helpful.Later on though when you file for divorce and start that you will have to get an attorney and that will cost you. I once got a restraining order from family court against one of my hubbies and it was free. I also got to talk to a counselor at the courts; also free. Well, Our taxes pay for this stuff. I also filed a petition for spousal support; all free. I represented myself in family court. Unfortunately I couldnt follow through because I had moved away.Only I did get a court date and it was going through and I didnt pay anything. I am so sorry I didnt stay around and follow through with that. Later on I filed for divorce so the family court thing was a wash out. Check it out. I cant believe no one has suggested this? I believe family court is in place for the less fortunate. Let us know what happens? I would def. file that custody order though since your hubby has problems. I doubt the courts will dispute this if you tell them the truth and what he has been doing for the last few years. You can get sole custody for now until hubby decides to straighten out or whatever. This way he cant just take your daughter. If you have custody and he takes her he is in violation of a court order and that is kidnapping. Yes; One parent can take the child without the other knowing and it could be legal if there is no court order. It happened to a friend of mine. Ok, either I asked the wrong questions or I asked the right ones to the wrong person! According to family court here, they only keep the court records. They said I have to file it all through an attorney, period. It was worth a try anyway. Guess I'll keep searching. Thanks. |
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