Replies to 'He/She Won't Commit!'

We as women tend to put everyone else's needs ahead of our own. You must be true to yourself. If you have told him what your needs and wants are and they are not being taken into consideration, you must sit back and take inventory of your relationship.  You need to ask yourself some really hard questions and answer them honesty. Stop settling for less than you deserve and accepting what you don't want for the sake of a man. You have invested a lot of time into this relationship and you haven't gotten much out of it. As far as his family goes, keep them OUT of your relationship. You are involved with him in this relationship. No one else. Whatever happened in his past marriages or relationships is no consequence. What matters most is right now and the relationship you have with him. Whomever was to blame in his past as well as yours doesn't matter.  The past is the past. Bury it and move on. If he can't give you what you want and need, it's time to move on and find someone who will. You have been patient for 5 1/2 years. You can't get those years back. How much more of your life are you willing to give up waiting for him to "change his mind".

That's one of the mistakes that we as women have.  WE expect the other person to change.  Did you ask him about what he thought of marriage since once day you might want to get married and knowing that he was married twice?  take ownership that you got involved with him  without asking him first, now, you cannot say but I want to be married.  Love him and respect him and if his choice is not to marry ask him why, and if it is a good reason, then respect his decision.  Also, ask yourself if what you want is him or marriage and what do you look in marriage, is it the image of portraying yourself in a different way, is it the security that marriage brings?  after asking yourself these questions then you can find out if you are also ready for another marriage.

 

Cheers