Quote From: lynn73Why is it so idotic to tell someone you have herpes? I haven't told all my family or friends, but the ones I have, have been very supportive and kind. I too don't have bad outbreaks and actually don't have them at all anymore but do realize the possibility of still transmitting it to someone. Condoms can protect someone without herpes but some peole with hsv get outbreaks in areas that a condom just doesn't cover and protect a person. Also if you are aware that you have and STD and do not tell your new partner and they get the STD, they can sue you if they choose to. It has happened already. Wouldn't you have liked to know from the person who gave you herpes that they had it? I know I would have.
I was just diagnosed with genital herpes. I am 43 and quite scared. I fortunately have God, in
my life and praying is the only time I seem to have peace.
The person who gave it to me, knew he had it for over 20 years. I asked him if he had any STDs,
he said "no", we were seeing each other for a few months. Had unprotected sex once and I got it. He emailed me a few days later and said that he had genital herpes, and that it was not passable unless you had an outbreak. I found out that it was passable during the shedding period. He didn't care. Just went online the next day so that he could date asap. I was tested positive with a new infection. He has refused phone calls with me. Hung up on me. So, I apologized to him via email without an apology, so I could get over the bitterness.
He is also a Sunday School teacher. So, yes you should tell someone you have it. And people, should get tested even without any classic symptoms.. I did, even though I didn't want to so that I could be aware and informed and socially responsible. And, always use protection. People lie, even those in church ministries. My symptoms are extremely mild. Not even noticeable.
But, am worried about telling potential partners and risking rejection....
