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September 23, 2006, 5:17 pm PDT
09/26 Marry Me or Else!
Quote From: housewife376
I am a very strong believer that long engagements do not make much sense. You cannot force another to want to get married. If anyone tries to force their mate into marriage it will probably be a miserable marriage for both partners. I have been with my husband for over 21 yrs. The first ten years we were not legally married. We got married in Dec 1994, in my living room. I am now happy, BUT the 10 yrs of living together caused me a great deal of anxiety and heartache(because he cheated on me several times), Looking back on this time period, I can't believe that I put up with that kind of mental abuse and embarrassment. During the 10 yrs unmarried, we had 2 sons. The children are now grown-up. I realize that I can't go back in time, if that were possible. I would not be in this marriage now. When a man strings you along, and keeps telling you that they are going to marry you, but NEVER do,(after a resonable time period),; It is time to move on and find someone else who really will appreciate you and love you. Don't let your partner drag you along, because YOU WILL BE VERY SORRY LATER, if you do. I know from first hand experience. My husband is 70 yrs old and I just went over the 40 mark. Take advice to someone who has been there and went through it. Think more of your self, don't allow your self-esteem to receed to a low level. Everyone deserves to be loved and have a happy marriage, Not one that was or is forced or pressured.
Lioness376-Leah
I commend you on the cheating/forgiving process you had to go through. I know, I could not be a forgiving spirit. How did you just forgive him for cheating??? I move on when they do that. Am I missing something because when they cheat on me, I am so out of there quickly. Just curious but I'd like to know an answer.
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