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September 28, 2006, 4:32 pm PDT
where is your heart anyway???????
Quote From: tryn2survivemy husband and i have been happily married for 14 yrs and have 2 beautiful daughters. the only reason we made our relationship "official" was because our oldest daughter is from my first marriage to a monster. we married so my current husband would be able to be her legal dad complete with our last name. in the event something happened to me my ex would have a horrendous legal battle on his hands instead of just swooping in and taking her. he IS a violent alcoholic who is capable of playing a good game of deception. if it had not been for this we probably would have never married. we are both products of a divorced family and i have already been thru my own divorce. if the relationship is good why is that piece of paper needed? love and eternal commitment is in your heart not on a piece of paper. not to mention, how many relationships change BECAUSE of that piece of paper. some think that paper is ownership. if you are truly happy with that person then quit rocking the boat. there's plenty of ways to "take care" of your partner without getting married. there are common law states as well. i have friends and relatives who have been married for 30 + yrs and do not live in the same house and some who have been together for 30 + yrs and never married and it works for them just fine. happiness and contentment should be the goal, not just a piece of paper to validate the relationship! So many people think that the "piece of paper" is insignificant, it is not, it is a legal document that is required by the country that requires it . So marriage is alot of things including love and that little piece of paper. I believe that if more thought went into the planning and finding out what the creator wants for our lives, together they would have more respect for themselves, and would wait to find that special someone who will respect them for whom they are.
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