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September 24, 2006, 8:34 pm PDT

No wedding presents

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 Dr. Phil and guest, My daughter Maureen will be married today September 29, 2006 to the man she loves. Like a great mother I am, I let her do what she wanted as far as all the plans were.  was told by many family members that my daughter should have written no gifts please for her second marriage on the invites. I felt that this was rude and so many family members are choosing not to attend. I feel this is fine, I want my daughter to be happy and if a chuch wedding is what she wants she should have what she wants. Maureen didn't have the church wedding first time.. David and Maureen were married in 2001 in a outdoor ceremony and now they are getting married in a church. they have 4 small children. My husband family is the ones who complained about the first wedding and they are now complaining again the church one. It took 5 years for the church wedding to happen due to the priest didn't want to marry a Catholic member to  a non Cathoic member. We over came it,My advise to all couple is DO WHAT YOU WANT IT'S YOUR DAY NO ONE ELSES. DON'T LET FAMILY PUSH YOU AGAINST EACH OTHER. IF THEY COME TO IT FINE, IF NOT SO BE IT.  THIS IS YOUR DAY ENJOY IT..... I SPENT $3,000 IN GIVING MY DAUGHTER JOY ON HER DAY .IF MY HUSBANDS FAMILY DON'T LIKE IT THEY CAN EAT CROWWWWWWWW...... GOOD LUCK TO ALL THOSE WHO ARE GETTING MARRIED....

I found a couple of online wedding etiquette sites that said  that your are absolutely right!  It is actually rude to mention gifts in any way--including stating "no gifts, please:  on an invitation--because mentioning gifts implies that you are expecting them.  So don't feel bad if they decided not to come.  Not attending a wedding because you don't like the invitation seems rather petty to me.  The point of etiquette is to help people feel comfortable in social situations  In addition to being wrong, they were rude to comment about it in the first place.

 

Happiness to the re-newlyweds!

 
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September 29, 2006, 10:43 am PDT

if guests wish to bring gifts thats thear choice

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 Dr. Phil and guest, My daughter Maureen will be married today September 29, 2006 to the man she loves. Like a great mother I am, I let her do what she wanted as far as all the plans were.  was told by many family members that my daughter should have written no gifts please for her second marriage on the invites. I felt that this was rude and so many family members are choosing not to attend. I feel this is fine, I want my daughter to be happy and if a chuch wedding is what she wants she should have what she wants. Maureen didn't have the church wedding first time.. David and Maureen were married in 2001 in a outdoor ceremony and now they are getting married in a church. they have 4 small children. My husband family is the ones who complained about the first wedding and they are now complaining again the church one. It took 5 years for the church wedding to happen due to the priest didn't want to marry a Catholic member to  a non Cathoic member. We over came it,My advise to all couple is DO WHAT YOU WANT IT'S YOUR DAY NO ONE ELSES. DON'T LET FAMILY PUSH YOU AGAINST EACH OTHER. IF THEY COME TO IT FINE, IF NOT SO BE IT.  THIS IS YOUR DAY ENJOY IT..... I SPENT $3,000 IN GIVING MY DAUGHTER JOY ON HER DAY .IF MY HUSBANDS FAMILY DON'T LIKE IT THEY CAN EAT CROWWWWWWWW...... GOOD LUCK TO ALL THOSE WHO ARE GETTING MARRIED....
your daughter should not have ritten no gifts please, and as far as a church wedding goes, thats a very good place to be married at, it dosent matter if its her 1st 2ed or 3ed wedding, god is always glad to be a part of any ones wedding, no matter how many times he attends that persons wedding, god welcomes all with open arms, i hope she has found her sole mate this time, every one deserves to be happy no matter how many times they have to try, its truly the blesseed who keep serching for true love no matter how many times they fail, not giving up is the key to finding that special one.
 
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September 29, 2006, 11:15 am PDT

wow my eyes drifted on me when i was reading your post

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 Dr. Phil and guest, My daughter Maureen will be married today September 29, 2006 to the man she loves. Like a great mother I am, I let her do what she wanted as far as all the plans were.  was told by many family members that my daughter should have written no gifts please for her second marriage on the invites. I felt that this was rude and so many family members are choosing not to attend. I feel this is fine, I want my daughter to be happy and if a chuch wedding is what she wants she should have what she wants. Maureen didn't have the church wedding first time.. David and Maureen were married in 2001 in a outdoor ceremony and now they are getting married in a church. they have 4 small children. My husband family is the ones who complained about the first wedding and they are now complaining again the church one. It took 5 years for the church wedding to happen due to the priest didn't want to marry a Catholic member to  a non Cathoic member. We over came it,My advise to all couple is DO WHAT YOU WANT IT'S YOUR DAY NO ONE ELSES. DON'T LET FAMILY PUSH YOU AGAINST EACH OTHER. IF THEY COME TO IT FINE, IF NOT SO BE IT.  THIS IS YOUR DAY ENJOY IT..... I SPENT $3,000 IN GIVING MY DAUGHTER JOY ON HER DAY .IF MY HUSBANDS FAMILY DON'T LIKE IT THEY CAN EAT CROWWWWWWWW...... GOOD LUCK TO ALL THOSE WHO ARE GETTING MARRIED....
i see your daughter is just renewing her vows so to speak im sorry i over looked whear she is just redoing her marrage but in a church this time, but it still goes if guest wish to bring a gift its thear choice, and as far as it being a church wedding , im sure god will be very glad to see them both in his house and will welcome them with open arms, and will be joyed to see 4 children in his house by them as well, sounds like she has found her sole mate god bless you and her family, and they should renew thear vowes as many times as they wish, god loves to share his love, and i think they have felt it in thear hearts good luck on the wedding today, and dont let any one spoil it for any of you, go make some happy memories,!!!!!
 
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September 29, 2006, 12:39 pm PDT

09/29 Wedding Dos and Don'ts

Quote From: tinytimm4

 Dr. Phil and guest, My daughter Maureen will be married today September 29, 2006 to the man she loves. Like a great mother I am, I let her do what she wanted as far as all the plans were.  was told by many family members that my daughter should have written no gifts please for her second marriage on the invites. I felt that this was rude and so many family members are choosing not to attend. I feel this is fine, I want my daughter to be happy and if a chuch wedding is what she wants she should have what she wants. Maureen didn't have the church wedding first time.. David and Maureen were married in 2001 in a outdoor ceremony and now they are getting married in a church. they have 4 small children. My husband family is the ones who complained about the first wedding and they are now complaining again the church one. It took 5 years for the church wedding to happen due to the priest didn't want to marry a Catholic member to  a non Cathoic member. We over came it,My advise to all couple is DO WHAT YOU WANT IT'S YOUR DAY NO ONE ELSES. DON'T LET FAMILY PUSH YOU AGAINST EACH OTHER. IF THEY COME TO IT FINE, IF NOT SO BE IT.  THIS IS YOUR DAY ENJOY IT..... I SPENT $3,000 IN GIVING MY DAUGHTER JOY ON HER DAY .IF MY HUSBANDS FAMILY DON'T LIKE IT THEY CAN EAT CROWWWWWWWW...... GOOD LUCK TO ALL THOSE WHO ARE GETTING MARRIED....
my husband and i were married 4 yrs ago and we lived together for a few years before we got married.  we had everything household and ect that we needed and we didn't want gifts either.  so i went on line and asked an advisor and she helped me with a quote that i tweeked and put into our reception portion of the invite.  it went something like this..  your loving friendship and family support is our greatest gift no other is necesary.  something like that.  my maid of honer thought that quote was very unselfish of us and thought highly of it.  we did get some gifts.  but you can state what you want just choose the right words.   karen
 


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