Quote From: crp4evrWhy do the Courts not let children speak? I live in Illinois and have been fighting a battle with my son who is now 11. I was never married and have full custody. The bio never came around until the Court caught up with him 9 months after he was born. I should have never never asked for support because he has soo much visitation and never pays, PLUS he abused him when he was 2 and most recently did not allow him to come home from a visitation which I had NO idea where he took the child. I had to file an order of protection on him to get my son back. The Courts did absolutely NOTHING to stop or restrict his visitation! The child goes every other weekend period and 1/2 holidays. It does not matter to the Court that he was physically and mentally abused period! My son hates to go but I have to threaten him if he does not I will get arrested. I am not sure what state this couple both reside in but I was NEVER married and the bio has visitations rights NO matter what. I have 7 more years of this hell.
I am confused since he was a she who is ther real father as I missed that? Why would he get custody if he is NOT the biological? I have been married for 6 years now and my husband who feeds, cloths and pays for everything has NO rights even though he is called Father constantly because my son truly knows who takes care of him since he never had a bond with his real Dad because of soo many problems.
We're in IL and our attorney told us if my husband's then 15yr old son refused to go to his mom's house on her weekend, all she could do was call the cops and they'd issue my husband a citation to appear in court. THey would not remove the child nor arrest my husband because it's a family law matter. Then, in court, we'd have our chance for his son to talk to the judge as to why he was refusing to go w/his mom. It end up that we called his mom's bluff and although she threatened to call the police and DCFS on my husband, she did not. Instead, his son worked out a deal where he sees his mom but not on weekends anymore (long story, lots of verbal abuse, crap about his dad and his sister's out of hand which all made my stepson not want to be at his mom's anymore.)
Just wanted to post this and am sorry your case seems so out of control. Shouldn't be like that.
