Replies to '11/23 Love Scams?'

I got one of these Nigerian scammers about a year ago.

Now I have to say I've been on a number of dating sites, and my profile still is on 2, and never had come across this before. I found for me, that I met lovely men on match.com but alot were from far away, as well as several other sites.

Had a lovely trip to meet one, he paid, and met a few from and in Toronto or Michigan, but nothing permanent. On Yahoo personals I was finding alot more local men and had some fun dates.

Out of the blue, this handsome black man from NYC contacted me and started emailing me. I was taken aback as I clearly was looking for someone close by and didn't have my net cast that wide. Why was he looking for someone in Northern Ontario??? He said he just ran a wide search and my picture came up.....feasible.

So we had alot of emails come back and forth, and after about a month he convinced me to add him to Yahoo messenger. Then he went into courting full steam. He said he was an educated engineer, had a partnership, and they did alot of work for builders in NYC and lately some oil companies. He didn't have a cam but insisted I turn mine on.......then he was off on how gorgeous, beautiful I was ......ya ok?

He always referred to me as his queen, as his mother had worked for the cultural ministry in Nigeria before moving to the US for school.

I will say here his English was perfect both written and grammar, and no mistakes.

Everything he said for 2 months made sense and I had no reason to doubt him.

I checked all 3 of his emails, his home address in NYC and all were what he said.

Then I was going to Toronto on business and invited him to pop over from NYC for dinner. He dragged his feet for a few days about this, then said he couldn't go as he couldn't afford it? What it's like $99 to Toronto from NYC?

Well actually he wasn't in NYC right now he was off the coast of Africa on an island working on pipelines for an oil company. (I checked the island did exist and Exxon has interests there)

Of course I asked why he never came up with this before that he wasn't in NYC but Africia, well he knew I had a problem with the distance of a few states knew I'd have a bigger problem with the distance to Africa.

Boy he did have an answer for everything, and to put my doubts down a notch but unfortunately I have a low trust of men.

Anyway, a few days later all of a sudden he starts pressuring me to send him $300, he needed it to fly home. He had $800 but couldn't get to his money as it was in NYC.....well what about his sister and mother. Oh doesn't bother his mother for anything and sister is just getting by......well so am I ......and where did this character come from? Even asking me for money. Was never like that before. I definitely had the feeling that someone was pressuring him to pressure me. No nothing like that.

This went on for several days until I just planed tired of it. I was after all in contact with other potential dates and this was just getting annoying even tho he professed his love etc. So I went invisable and didn't talk to him. He kept sending emails, leaving IM's and I didn't bite......until he said he wanted to tell me the truth.

Ok I came on what is the truth. He turned on a webcam.......he was black but not the guy in the pictures. Who was that? Some model. But see this is me and I still love you I just have a different face.

Wait I noticed the clothes....the room.....where are you? In an internet cafe'. So where is your laptop? You don't have one do you? No.....and the job in NYC, the loft, the family in the states?

Well had the family but in Nigeria. Could not understand my anger and tears over this lie.

But as I reminded him it wasn't 1 lie it was all lies.

Why me?

He told me, there was a group of these young students, or guys who just worked in local factories, who cruise the personals, looking for women, maybe a little pump, or not entirely gorgeous but pretty. Someone maybe who has been on there awhile.....or they are new and don't word their ad too great. They know she is lonely and maybe vunerable.

Why me? Well he honestly liked how I looked and dreamed of moving to Canada and living with me then marrying me, and if I would just send some money, he could still work others but be honest with me???

Are you nuts??? You couldn't even handle the cold let alone me!

I verbally blew a gasket and I told him never to contact me again.

I left him on my list while I contacted both Yahoo and Yahoo personals. At first I got a form email from them then I did get a response where they did delete all 3 of his emails and his ad on the personals (3 of them) and blocked his ISP. Hopefully this would protect a few more women.

I sent him (as did my best friend) a slamming last email and let him respond....once then blocked and deleted him forever from my life.

Not to long after a local girl got caught in the money order scam with again guys from Nigeria and she got nailed with fraud and had to serve 6 months of weekends at the local jail.

This year I joined myspaces.com and within the first 2 weeks I must of had 10 guys and 1 girl from Nigeria (in a form email to a guy yet??) contact me. I told them not interested and blocked them. Then put on my profile for Nigerians to go away and I would not contact anymore. Funny my mail has slowed right down....LOL

I have noticed there they all push for you to go to Yahoo or Hotmail messenger.....so they can get your email.......I haven't figured out why yet. But I do know several friends who have had their Yahoo email/account hijacked and Yahoo cant get them back in for some reason? I wonder if this has anything to do with that.

End of the story, I'm still dating. A man from nearby wants to move things to the next level.....we'll see.

Always be cautious, don't give out personal addresses. Your email account you can delete and change but your live and money you can't recover.

Don't put these ladies down I think alot never saw this coming and are just honest and naiive. They aren't deseparate just too trusting.

Remember ladies, trust is earned not a given!