Quote From: lindamariezOh God that must've been awful, being slapped in the face. I wasn't slapped, but I might as well have been. My mother is also in total denial of my childhood...its like she's rewritten it. I've tried to get her to talk about it or even acknowledge it and she always acted like she has no idea whatsoever what I'm talking about. But, two years ago I was beaten up by my alcoholic brother. (There again, denial...because they act like he's a fine upstanding citizen!) I haven't spoken to him since and have really suffered serious setbacks since that happened. My mother pesters me to "forgive" him and acts like what he did was nothing. One day she said to me sarcastically, "You can't forgive him but you forgave your father!" (I guess that's what she thinks because I stayed silent like I was ordered to and pretended everything was okay to keep peace in the family!) She went on to say, "I never will! I'll never forget what it did to me!" That's the first time she has ever acknowledged it really did happen. But it happened to her not me! I haven't spoken to her either since that conversation. I just can't. it blew me away.
Anyway, thanks for the reply. it helps to know you're not alone. I hope you're doing okay.
Linda
Hi Linda,
Yes, I am doing ok. I will never have closure because just like your family there is no open and honest communication. I gave up trying to have a relationship with my family.
I feel sometimes it is best to cut your losses and make a life for yourself. You know communication with your mother is not "real." So why bother? You mentioned that your brother is an alcoholic, does your mother drink?
My mother does not drink anymore however, she still has the same mentality....the dry drunk. All my sisters and brother are alcoholics. I do not drink anything stronger than crystal light. For my own mental health I stay away from them. They are toxic ...
