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October 2, 2006, 9:54 pm PDT
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Quote From: kimmy37I am a mother whose daughter was severely spanked by her father in Jan 2006. The kids have been questioned repeatedly, going through counseling where several other very disturbing things have came out that involve locks being on the outside of my daughters door and all three ages at that time 3, 6 & 7, being locked outside, and all the emotional ups and downs that has gone on before and after Jan. It has been a nightmare. My ex has only been charged with a misdemeanor and after having 2 hour supervised visits one day a week to which all did NOT go well, DFS recommended that he go back to his regular visitation schedule. The kids are scared and at least one of them cry and refuse to go. However I have been told that there is nothing I can do until my modification comes up this month or until he hurts the kids again. I have tried everything to get my case heard sooner, I have written state representatives and I have even written Robin to see what she would do if she was in my shoes. I swear if he ever hurts these kids again and they would put the kids right back with him, I would consider running. What else can a parent do to protect their kids? The laws are not there to help. If a grown woman gets beaten by her husband or boyfriend and then goes back to her abuser, we as a society usually say that she asked for it because she went back. Well, in my case, my children who are now 4, 7 & 8 are saying that they are scared and do not want to go back but the law says they have to. I'm sorry, but this is messed up. So the women, and in some cases, the men that protect their children at all cost, good for you. I hope I am never in the situation where that has to be something I have to consider but I can't honestly say that I haven't thought about it. I just can't imagine kids being away from all their family and friends. I guess I am still somewhat of an optimist because with everything my ex has done, I can still see the importance of my kids knowing and seeing, on some level, their dad. I just wish he would get his head out of his butt and be the kind of dad that I know he could be instead of the dad he has been and is being. Where does Abuse play a role here? Does not the law in your state have any child endangerment rules. Locking children in rooms with locks you are describing should fall under that title. Also Severe spanking should be physical abuse, which is unlawful. But, I understand where you are coming from. I have tried to get "Child Protective Services" to do something about my grandson for ever. But, no he HAS to be with his mother, who is an alchoholic. He can't be with his father, because he is an addict. There is no justice for children. Everytime I see an ad for some aid outfit, I get sick to my stomach, because the first thing they show is a child or children. All they care about is lining their own pockets. My ex daughter in law is the same way with child support. She is like the government, how much money does she need, "more". Then she tries to figure out ways to keep them busy or some such thing, so they can't have visitation with their dad. But, by golly he better not miss a payment. So those government outfits, who profess to be there to protect children, or only cess pools for people who can't find work somewhere else. Most of them don't know straight up about children, except payday is on Friday.
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