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October 10, 2006, 7:21 am PDT
Assurances
Quote From: godskiddjI have gone thru "empty nest" four times....with one more child still at home who leaves for college in the fall of next year. Here is my dilemma...she is having such a hard time realizing she will be leaving me and knowing all her friends will not be nearby anymore. How can I help her become more excited for her future and not be afraid of being wihthout me. I have struggled thru major depression in my life and think this plays a part on her fears of leaving. She wants to go to college to become a Chrisitan teacher and I know she will be fine...any suggestions on how to help her cope and not be so afraid that she is in tears this far from leaving in time? Is it possible that your daughter is afraid to leave YOU alone?
She has witnessed you go through "empty nest" 4 times and she is the
last one, she is aware of your struggles with depression. What do you
think the chances are that she is not afraid of going away at all, but
feels a responsibility towards you?
Here's what I would do, get yourself signed up for some programs, activities, groups, classes, etc.
Sit down and have a long heart-to-heart with your daughter and bring up
the possibility that I mentioned. Assure her that you are going to be
just fine and wish her well in her own journey through life. But don't
just tell her you will be fine, let her see you getting involved in
life for herself.
Good luck to you.
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