Quote From: carolmqeI felt too stupid to be considered human until I was in my mid 40's because I was told every day of my childhood that I was stupid. Even many years of intense psychotherapy couldn't assuage that feeling and belief. It took becoming a professionally published author to change my self-image to one of being intelligent - my IQ is about 125. ----
PLEASE, PLEASE, DO NOT CALL YOUR CHILDREN STUPID OR TELL THEM THEY ARE STUPID FOR ANY REASON AT ANY TIME!
I am so glad you are now able to feel proud of yourself for your accomplishments! But, you were an intelligent person all along....so sorry that you were told otherwise all those years.
I am a teacher, and I DO NOT allow those kinds of negative words to be used in my classroom, stupid is a word that just grates against my nerves....and many of today's kids use it as if they are accustomed to hearing it often. I see students that are so emotionally neglected, it is so sad to see what they must put up with. Some parents also expect way too much out of their children, straight A's or nothing else will do....so much stress on a young student. Then again, others aren't expected to perform and don't do more than they just have to, to get by. When parents come in for P/T conferences, it doesn't take long to figure out why the students are like they are....as they say the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. There are exceptions of course, and that is the wonderful part...seeing kids rise above their difficult beginnings.
Why can't people treat others as they want to be treated, such a simple rule to live by...why is that so hard to do? Maybe it's because some didn't get treated with respect when they were younger. Parents who set good examples pass on a great legacy to their children.
