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October 3, 2006, 6:07 am PDT

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You  called the cops on your kid for doing drugs? Ever tried parenting? Maybe accepting your child? Getting him involved with the police is going to scar him emotionally for life. I almost don't even believe someone could do something THAT screwed up to their child. I'd run away too.

LIKE YOUR KIDS.
I can't even believe your reply to Becky!  It makes me wonder what YOU are thinking.  I don't know if you've ever been in the position she was in.  Your reply tells me probably not.  When you have totally run out of options (including parenting) you hope the law will stand by you and help to save your kid from themselves.  It doesn't always work that way, but you have to do something.  If you caught someone else's kid doing something they unlawful, your first reaction would be to call the police.  That is your civic duty.  If your kid is breaking the law the hardest thing you'll ever have to do is turn them in.  I'm sure it was no easy task for Becky to turn in her child.  We all try to parent the best way we know how.  As far as accepting your child, absolutely.  But that does not mean you have to accept their behaviors.  Part of parenting is providing consequences to their actions.  In Becky's case that consequence was supposed to be a wake up call from the police. 
 
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October 3, 2006, 8:36 am PDT

I did too!

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You  called the cops on your kid for doing drugs? Ever tried parenting? Maybe accepting your child? Getting him involved with the police is going to scar him emotionally for life. I almost don't even believe someone could do something THAT screwed up to their child. I'd run away too.

LIKE YOUR KIDS.

Do you have children? It doesn't appear that you do. Ask your parents what they would do to you if you were using drugs and stealing from them.

 

I called the police on my child as well! Since his drug use he has gotten violent. He did attend rehab and is continuing therapy. His violent behavior has gotten better. 

He too has run away from home, he has also had his "girlfriend" in our home at 3 am while we were sleeping. Oh, I called the police on her too and at any time that she chooses to contact him again, I can have her arrested as well!

What's a parent to do when their child does not respect them? I had one of 2 choices. 1, Call the police and let them mediate or 2 smack the crap out of my kid for being such a smart mouth and end up in jail myself? I know I did the right thing by calling the police.

 

 
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October 3, 2006, 9:56 pm PDT

09/27 Generation Rx

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You  called the cops on your kid for doing drugs? Ever tried parenting? Maybe accepting your child? Getting him involved with the police is going to scar him emotionally for life. I almost don't even believe someone could do something THAT screwed up to their child. I'd run away too.

LIKE YOUR KIDS.

What color is the sky in your world? It must be nice to blame your parents for everything. God forbid you should ever have to take any personal responsibility for your behavior. What accepting that our parents do/did the best they can and rest is up to us?

 

Tell us all how to be perfect parents, since you're an expert on raising perfect children.

 
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December 19, 2006, 7:51 am PST

12/19 Generation Rx

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You  called the cops on your kid for doing drugs? Ever tried parenting? Maybe accepting your child? Getting him involved with the police is going to scar him emotionally for life. I almost don't even believe someone could do something THAT screwed up to their child. I'd run away too.

LIKE YOUR KIDS.

Do you understand that a child may be doing this stuff for reasons the parent does not know

about and won't tell them?  many young girls who self-injure is from sexual abuse they do not tell about, they hurt deep in side, hurt alot.  they may go on for years not showing a single sign

of it?  A young guy could have been sexually abused, emotionally assaulted or he did something

bad he won't tell and can't stand the guilt?  Parents are not mind readers, fortune tellers nor

know everything a child may have had happen to them?

If I had to chose and I have had to do it: let my child continue drugs which would kill her or

call police or take other forceabel actions?  Guess what I will every time go for what has the best chance at saving thier life before worrying about the shame of a police report.

Obviously a scar of police report is much less compared to a ER visit for overdose or busted for

illegal use of drugs or alcohol, most of all it is far less than a potential death or brain dead!

Give the parents a break, yell at those parents who drink and do drugs with their kids!

 
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December 19, 2006, 11:26 am PST

12/19 Generation Rx

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You  called the cops on your kid for doing drugs? Ever tried parenting? Maybe accepting your child? Getting him involved with the police is going to scar him emotionally for life. I almost don't even believe someone could do something THAT screwed up to their child. I'd run away too.

LIKE YOUR KIDS.
Until you have walked in that persons shoes.......
 
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December 19, 2006, 5:49 pm PST

12/19 Generation Rx

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You  called the cops on your kid for doing drugs? Ever tried parenting? Maybe accepting your child? Getting him involved with the police is going to scar him emotionally for life. I almost don't even believe someone could do something THAT screwed up to their child. I'd run away too.

LIKE YOUR KIDS.
How dare you berate someone for calling the police on their child.  The first time I had to do it, I literally went into the bathroom afterwards and threw up.  I DID "parent" and "accept" my child.  I taught him right from wrong, but he made unwise choices ON HIS OWN.  We tried and tried and tried to reason with him, and only called the police as a last resort, after he stole lots of money from us, for drugs.  Getting him involved with the police certainly hasn't "scarred him for life."  It ended up saving his life. 
 
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December 19, 2006, 8:48 pm PST

12/19 Generation Rx

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You  called the cops on your kid for doing drugs? Ever tried parenting? Maybe accepting your child? Getting him involved with the police is going to scar him emotionally for life. I almost don't even believe someone could do something THAT screwed up to their child. I'd run away too.

LIKE YOUR KIDS.
Do you have any kids?
 

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December 20, 2006, 4:29 pm PST

12/19 Generation Rx

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You  called the cops on your kid for doing drugs? Ever tried parenting? Maybe accepting your child? Getting him involved with the police is going to scar him emotionally for life. I almost don't even believe someone could do something THAT screwed up to their child. I'd run away too.

LIKE YOUR KIDS.

you obviously are not dealing with a child submersed in this!  My son started at 11 he has been in rehab twice until I lost my insurance, we have talked, yelled, cried, couselled, called the police, nothing has worked, I cannot understand the mindset of these children, my community is consumed with them.  I am sorry to the person who said "i'm sorry no price is too high"  The decent facilities are extremely expensive it was 12,000 mo for residential treatment, thank heavens for insurance, but now I don't have it.  Are you saying put the rest of the family ourt on the street to pay for one member?  There has to be another solution.  My son steals everything from us he lies ALL the time, he know how to say what you want to hear , he destroys my home, he is bigger than all of us and if he is confronted will beat his brother or father.  He brings his friends in my home while I am working and they eat all our groceries and use drugs all day!  I am terrified that someone is going to die in my home.  Am I to quit my job?  We are barely making it and what little we have he steals it, with all of the stress my entire family is depressed.  The using child gets all the focus all the time, there is no time for anyone else.  You love them, but it feels like they love the drugs above all else and he will even tell you he does.  This is HELL on earth!  Courts do not help, they put my son on probation for 6mo he violated 3 times before his first court appearance, they put him in Juvenile for a weekend, charged me for it and then on his next visit to his PO, they released him!!!!!!!????? He did none of the requirements? That is why they keep it up - NO CONSEQUENCES!  I blame myself, I did him wrong somehow?  But my 20 year old is a productive, honest ,good, responsible, non-using person....I do not have the answer, but beating up the  parents for doing ANYTHING is wrong, there are so many that do nothing!  If it comes to my child being harmed or harming someone else...by GOD then I AM calling the police!

 


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