Quote From: dovebird1Hello,
If there are others at your family gatherings that you want to visit with and want your children to visit with, then go to them. Don't allow your uncle to make that choice for you.
You have every right to stay in touch with whomever you choose...whether it be an ex in-law or whoever...as long as it's a positive and healthy connection. You can visit with your cousins ex-wife, but I would stay away from airing the family gossip because it will only hurt your relationship with her. Stay positive, offer each other support...but allow her and yourself to deal with the family turmoil seperate from your friendship.
Take Care.
Thank you for the reply. I know I shouldn't let him make that choice for me, but I already feel out of sorts with not having my mother here for family gatherings and to add the feeling that someone feels you're the problem in their life that they're better off without you is overwhelming to me. I stay in touch with his ex-daughter-in-law because her boys and my son love to hang out. If I left their relationship up to him it would be non-existent.
