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October 5, 2006, 9:09 am PDT
 Quote From: 100269 I know that this problem (stress) can be easily fixed since I'm like that too especially oral presentations. It very important that he knows the defenition of organization and how to do it. Organization means that everything is seperated into categories, it doesnt necesarily mean neat but its a personal system where you can find things in less then 30 seconds. Losing something at the last minute is stressful. It also important to plan well which means do 70% of the work at the begining. This strategy never fails and avoids lots of panics and stress. Theres such a relief when your not paniking at the last minute and when you get it over with. It feels like bricks coming off your shoulder. At the beginning of an assignment, or when he finds out theres a test, he should have an agenda right on his desk and takes notes. When I get stressed out I always take a piece of paper and right everything out thats stressing me out and circle the ones that must be tackled first (priorities). Its normal to get stressed out, most people do or get nervous and I think its a good time for him to get started because it will get worse in high school and post-secondary. My 13 year old has a binder with an accordian file...a slot for homework from each class...graded papers do not go there...just the homework coming and going from school. That, plus close communication with the teachers, keeps him honest about the homework. I went into detail about that in a past posting. Also, the school requires each student to have and fill out a day planner every day, with all homework assignments. Having it filled out is part of their classroom grade.
I make the kids get their lunches made and clothes out the night before. When they were in elementary school, I used to have them sleep in their clothes for the next day, just so we wouldn't have the battles of getting dressed in the morning...they've mostly outgrown that now. (although, our 13 year old tries to get away with wearing the same shirt and socks all week...I really have to keep an eye on that and remember what he wore the previous day) Showers are taken in the evening too. Homework is filed in the binder as soon as it is done. Getting them to comb their hair in the morning? Doesn't always happen, but most high school and junior high boys have messy hair, so they don't really care.
Our 17 year old, with Narcolepsy like me, has a hard time getting up in the morning, no matter how early he goes to bed. He has three alarm clocks in his room, none of them close to his bed...he has to get up to shut them off...occasionally, we move them, so he has to wake up enough to find them. These alarms go off within 5 minutes of each other. Since we started doing this, getting up is less of a problem.
It is really refreshing that our youngest son is naturally organized and does his homework with out prompting, gets himself up in the morning and gets dressed without an arguement...we'll see what happens when he gets to junior high. The elementary school has taken up a new policy of having a designated homework folder, which goes home every night. Notes to the parents are in there too, and must be signed by the parents to acknowledge that they were read. I think this is really beneficial for future habits.
Organization...the key to less stress...less running around like a chicken with its head cut off looking for stuff at the last minute.
(I'm not perfect at the organization thing, but I do keep a daily list, so I can remember to do what I need to do...the house is mostly a mess, but I do know where everything is...I'd be in big trouble if Martha Stewart came to my house to get rid of the clutter.)
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