Quote From: healthnut23Just 5 weeks after giving birth to our first child my husband of 4 yrs tells me he is not happy and feels like something is missing in our marriage. He says he can not see himself growing old with me and can't see himself being a family man. Oh ya, he says he loves me and is in love with me. What the heck is going on inside my husband's head? He says he's been unhappy for a long time, but why did he wait so long and after we had a baby? He says he doesn't know why he feels the way he does. I feel hurt, anger, confused, and deceived. What do I do????
It looks like your husband has allowed the pressures of grown up life to cave in on himself.
Some times the perception of the male role in family is unrealistic. In other words his vision or mind picture of what’s expected of him is distorted because his view or attitude toward love, intimacy, sex, finances or some other self image may be distorted. Attitude drives behavior and is learned. Only he can change or relearn his attitudes and his feelings will change with it.
He may not trust himself and is in need of careful review of where his feelings are coming from. Some people have difficulty connecting the source of their feelings. If you can provide him a safe place to honestly and openly do some detective work on his feelings then you both should see a growth spurt in your relationship. If not then call in a respected professional relationship specialist who can.
As long as he is willing to talk to you about it there is a good chance he’ll find the root cause of his feelings. Hope this helps.
