Quote From: mightypenThank you, quietstorm, I thought I was the only one who thought something just didn't seem right about this. It kind of kept nagging at me all afternoon, and I guess I was feeling guilty about feeling the way I did, and so I thought maybe I just didn't fully understand the information presented on the show today, and that is why I am checking the site now. I am usually both a very positive person and more than a little naive and accepting of what I am told, but I just got huge red flags going off in my head when I watched this show. Something just wasn't adding up. I know I am going to burn in you-know-where for even thinking this, and I know I'll be chewed on from writers on this board as well, but I feel a strong need to post this for some reason, and I never post.
(Deep breath ...) I don't believe the wife. I think she knew who the attacker was, and I think it had to do with her. I think the husband was the primary target, but I do not think he knew the person. I think the attacker knew of the husband. I think the attacker had been in the house before because the wife had let that person in their house before. I just get a gut feeling about it, and I feel awful for even bringing it up, but whenever I saw her, a little voice just kept on saying, "She's lying." I don't know if it was something in her eyes, or how she described the events but it didn't seem as if she was telling the truth. Her positioning in the house confused me (why was she where she was after the attack? How did she know the attacker was gone? Why didn't she grab her girls and get out of the house? But of course, when a situation like that happens, it is easy to say what should have been done. If an attacker came after me, I probably would act erratically also).
I know I'll get slammed for this. I don't know all the facts. If the woman is innocent, then I feel even worse for smearing her like this and adding to her grief and all this family has gone through, but sometimes that little voice is there for a reason. Dr. Phil has probably had his staff research this fifteen ways to Sunday, and I only saw a snippet, so who am I to say? I was relieved, however, that quietstorm paused a bit also. I hate doubting people like this, it makes me feel like such an ugly person inside. So go ahead and write your opinions of me, it is probably something I have already said about myself in my own head for even thinking this.
I am absolutely amazed that you can make such harsh judgments about people you don't even know. Maybe it makes you feel safer to think that it wasn't a random incident, but it does not help the family AT ALL to put the blame on them. You are right in that you don't know all the facts and shame on you for even suggesting that the wife is lying. I think you are the one in deep need of therapy.
Some facts that might make you a little less judgmental of the wife....the kids were not left alone. They were in a locked room with their grandmother. There were NO doors unlocked. The intruder broke the glass door in the back yard. There are many more facts that did not get on the show, but the Dr. Phil show is not an investigation show. That's not what this show was about.
I hope the next time you think about judging someone you don't know, you'll take breath and realize you can't make judgments without knowing all the facts.
If any of the Dr. Phil staff reads these messages, maybe you can add something to one of you shows about the affect of these negative messages. Maybe you can even get this negative writer on your show so she can get some help.